Love Life With Matthew Hussey

In this week's episode of Love Life, I speak with Sarah who had just started dating her "dream guy" before things took a turn for the worst when she left for a week. With his attention lost, we discuss the subtle ways she can regain it. -- ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at → http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

In this episode, Matthew sits down with Dr. Morgan Cutlip (@drmorgancutlip) to explore the real work of modern relationships. Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this is a must-listen for anyone who wants to learn how to communicate their needs, set boundaries, and grow closer to their partner without losing themselves in the process. Topics Covered: What actually changes when you become parents, and how to prepare for it. Why resentment builds when your needs go unspoken. Dr. Cutlip’s “Ultimate Compliment Formula” for deeper emotional connection. How to love someone in the way they need to be loved (even if it doesn’t come naturally). What the “mental load” is and why it’s a hidden relationship-killer. How to talk about imbalance in a relationship without triggering defensiveness. The difference between compromise and losing yourself in a relationship. How to bring up your needs without guilt. What makes someone “relationship ready” in dating. How individualism is quietly undermining commitment culture. Resources Mentioned: Dr. Morgan Cutlip’s book: A Better Share – Buy your copy here Join Matthew’s 30-Day Confidence Challenge – MHChallenge.com Try Matthew AI (ask any relationship question) – AskMH.com CozyEarth.com

In my 30s, I realized some truths about relationships that took me years to really learn. I used to believe in a lot of romantic myths. But in this week’s new episode, I share the hard-earned truth that certainty in love isn’t something you find on day one—it’s something you have to decide to build and invest in. You’ll also learn the difference between “settling for” and “settling on” someone, and why the latter is the key to creating a love that lasts. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by the fear of choosing the wrong person, or overwhelmed by your search for “the one,” this is the mindset shift you need. -- ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at → http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

Few things can match the heady exhilaration of dating someone and building momentum through regular texting and a sense of closeness. But what about when the texting on their end is . . . kind of slow and intermittent . . . where there are big gaps in your text exchanges that leave you feeling unsure as to where, exactly, you stand with that person? Feeling this way might even lead you to start analyzing their relationship with their phone the next time you’re with them, looking for clues as to whether their sporadic phone usage is consistent in their life or reserved just for you. At some point, they might’ve even shared a generic line with you like, “I’m so rubbish with my phone,” or “I’m really bad at replying to people!” But is this really true? In this week’s episode, I not only answer these questions, but I dig into a really common mistake people make in this area. --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com

Do you feel like time is running out to find love? Whether you’re worried about starting a family, comparing yourself to friends who are coupled up, or just feeling urgent pressure to “catch up” in your dating life, this episode is for you. Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey explore how to handle dating confidently when the stakes feel high, and how to avoid letting fear and anxiety sabotage your decisions. If you’ve ever felt behind—unsure whether to stay hopeful or make a bold change—this episode will give you the tools to find love and ease the pressure others try to put on you. In this episode we cover: Why the fear of “running out of time” is so common in dating today. How to create urgency without falling into panic mode. The illusion of progress: How “distraction relationships” can quietly steal years of your life. Real stats on women having children after 35. How to stop comparing your timeline to everyone else’s. Reframing societal pressure and internal anxiety. Dating intentionally vs. dating reactively. How to bring up having kids in early dating conversations. The importance of a backup plan—and how it can actually help your love life. Links: – Try Matthew AI for free: AskMH.com – Join the Love Life Club with exclusive courses and live events: JoinLoveLife.com – Get your ticket to the Matthew Hussey Retreat: MHretreat.com – Watch the free masterclass: Casual to Committed: GetCommitment.com – Send us your stories or questions: podcast@matthewhussey.com

I have something really cool to share today, This is a conversation I had with Jay Shetty for his On Purpose podcast, where we talked about the modern dating dilemma of endless options and the fear of settling. We discussed the danger of always looking for “someone better” as a dating strategy, why we miss out on meaningful connections, and how to find a real relationship rather than optimizing for the perfect partner. If you’ve ever felt like you’re always torn between chasing someone exciting or someone who brings you peace, this episode will help you create a love life that actually works for you. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at → http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

What could possibly be more painful than rejection? Turns out, there's one feeling that IS. In this week's Rewind episode, I reveal what it is and share the one mindset that will get you over your fear of rejection once and for all so you can finally put yourself "out there" without worrying about getting hurt again... --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it’s easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you’re dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive deep into the topic of avoidant attachment, exploring how it develops, signs to look for, and what you can do if you’re dating someone with avoidant behavior. Topics Covered: The 5 key traits of avoidant partners. Why avoidants and anxious people are magnetically drawn to each other. Whether we overuse the “avoidant” label as a defense mechanism. How early experiences shape attachment patterns. What to do if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone avoidant. How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone who just doesn’t want a relationship. How to anticipate the needs of a more independent partner. The importance of not mistaking emotional unavailability for “value.” Links: DatingWithResults.com – Free training for finding love without the chaos of modern dating. JoinLoveLife.com – Become a member and access exclusive live coaching sessions and courses. AskMH.com – Try Matthew AI and get real-time coaching from an AI trained on Matthew’s advice. MHRetreat.com – Book your place for the October Miami Retreat (virtual + in-person options available). CozyEarth.com

What makes someone truly irresistible in the early stages of dating? In this episode, I share four powerful ways to boost your attractiveness in the first weeks of getting to know someone . . . so you can create intrigue and keep things moving forward. If you’re over surface-level chats, have a hard time balancing your heart and your head, or just feel stuck, this one’s for you. I also tell a personal story that shows how small changes can make a huge impact on your dating life. Don’t miss it! ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at → http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

This week’s video will help you cut through all of the anxiety, uncertainty, and stress. I go deep on three very specific questions you can ask yourself to determine whether staying or leaving is the right decision for you. I also break down a new model that will help you identify what to watch out for and the dangerous cocktail of certain traits we must avoid in someone . . . these are the traits that can make a relationship so toxic that over time, it will erode our confidence and identity to the point that leaving the relationship is the only option. Understanding this model may just save your self-respect, sanity, and happiness. And once you know how it works, red flags will be much easier to spot. This is a video you’ll also want to return to anytime you’re stuck in that fog of fear and confusion and want to feel a sense of clarity . . . so you can stop second-guessing your choices and move on with confidence. --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com

In this episode, Matthew sits down with artist, activist, and author Mary Fisher (@maryfisher), whose landmark 1992 speech at the Republican National Convention changed the face of AIDS awareness and made her a global icon of truth-telling and compassion. Now in a new chapter of her life, Mary reflects on what it means to grieve not just people, but old lives, family, identity, and the loss of a place in the world. Together, she and Matthew explore how we rebuild, find chosen family, use creativity to heal, and speak up after a lifetime of being told to stay quiet. This conversation is for anyone feeling disconnected, disempowered, or unsure of how to move forward when life has drastically changed. Mary’s words are a reminder that it’s never too late to reinvent your life, speak your truth, and create beauty from pain. Topics Covered: The distinction between grief and depression—and how naming grief gave Mary her life back What it feels like to lose family who are still alive, and how to navigate that emotional terrain How to build a chosen family when your biological one isn’t safe or supportive The courage behind Mary’s 1992 speech and how mortality shifted her priorities Why radical honesty can be the foundation for deep connection Finding the right level of vulnerability early in relationships How to let go of the fantasy of who someone was “supposed to be” Creating through pain—how art and creativity became her medicine Learning to speak up after a lifetime of silence, guilt, and being told to “be a good girl” How to rewire your inner voice and create safety to be heard Understanding the difference between connection and one-sided emotional dependence in relationships Resources & Links: Mary Fisher’s new book: Uneasy Silence Mary’s website: MaryFisher.com Instagram: @maryfisherart Project Angel Food (charity supported by Mary’s book): angelfood.org Matthew AI (24/7 coaching): AskMH.com Join our retreat in October: MHRetreat.com

Are you stuck comparing everyone you meet to an ex who felt like “the one”? In this new video, you’ll learn why we hold on to past relationships, and discover a surprising truth about closure that might just change how you see your breakup. If you’ve ever felt like no one measures up to the chemistry or excitement you had before, this is a must-watch. A powerful mindset shift I share will help you (finally!) let go of the fantasy and open yourself up to the love you truly deserve. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at → http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

When you’re texting with someone you like, do you struggle to know what to say next? Or maybe it feels like you’re in a texting rut, and keep having the same conversations . . . Today’s episode is a mini toolkit for these exact situations, with 5 high-value texting suggestions that restart attraction, lead to a date, or just bring you more emotional connection. Use these practical messages to inspire better communication in any dating situation! --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com

What really makes someone commitment-worthy in dating? And what qualities do we need to make sure are there if we want someone to choose us? In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey look at 4 crucial must-haves for commitment. If you’ve ever been unsure if you’re choosing the right person (or want to make yourself someone who is seen as a great potential partner), this is for you. Topics include: Why chemistry isn’t enough for commitment How to decide what is “enough” in the qualities you need in a potential partner Attractive micro-behaviors that make someone see you as the person they want to commit to A listener question on whether you should keep trying to get commitment from someone working through their own blocks and traumas The importance of a “shared vision” in commitment Links mentioned: 💬 Try Matthew AI and ask your first questions for free: https://www.askMH.com 🎟️ Join us at the Miami Retreat (October 18–19): https://www.MHRetreat.com 💞 Become a Love Life Member and join future live events: https://www.JoinLoveLife.com 📧 Have a story, question, or want to share your favorite podcast moment? Email us at: podcast@matthewhussey.com

Why does commitment seem so hard right now? In this week’s video, Matthew sits down with entrepreneur and speaker Anas Bukhash to talk about everything from the addictive pull of dating apps to the unrealistic expectations created by the seemingly endless “buffet” of people from which we can choose a partner. The conversation also unpacks a better approach to finding love that stops you getting caught in the same trap as everyone else. (This may just change how you approach dating!) --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at → http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com --- ▼ Connect with Anas ▼ Website → https://www.abtalks.ae Instagram → / abtalks YouTube → ‪@AnasBukhash‬ TikTok → / abtalks

Why do we stay in relationships that erode our confidence, self-worth, and happiness? In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of trauma bonds and how empathy—one of our greatest strengths—can become our biggest weakness in toxic relationships. We’ll explore why we get stuck in these cycles, the danger of hoping someone will change, and how to reclaim your power by prioritizing your own well-being. If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that’s draining your energy and warping your reality, this conversation is for you. Tune in for practical insights, empowering advice, and a reminder that your compassion should always extend to yourself first. 🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward breaking free. --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com

In this powerful and deeply human conversation, Matthew sits down with Laurie Woolever—author of Care and Feeding: A Memoir—to explore the journey of reclaiming one’s voice after years of living in the shadow of larger-than-life figures like Anthony Bourdain and Mario Batali. Topics covered: Why Laurie finally chose to write her memoir after decades in food media. What it's like to stop headlining other people’s lives and start showing up in your own. Her path through addiction, shame, and sobriety—and how it shaped her. The emotional toll and moral complexity of writing honestly about people she’s loved. The collapse of a marriage and the ripple effects of one deeply vulnerable moment. Infidelity, accountability, and what radical self-acceptance really looks like. Why “nice but boring” often hides deeper emotional safety—and how to spot a mature relationship. Dating in your 40s and beyond. What “playing the tape forward” teaches us about addiction, impulse, and the allure of red flags. Advice for people stuck in toxic attraction loops or mourning heartbreak they fear they’ll never get over. Whether you’re grappling with heartbreak, questioning your worth, or trying to navigate the messy terrain of self-reinvention, this episode will feel like a conversation with someone who’s lived it and survived to tell the truth. 🔗 Links Buy the book - Care and Feeding: A Memoir by Laurie Woolever 🎥 Watch our Dating Made Simple Replay (available until midnight on Friday, May 30): LoveLifeReplay.com 💬 Try Matthew AI and ask your first questions for free: AskMH.com 🎟️ Join us at the Miami Retreat (October 18-19): MHRetreat.com 💞 Become a Love Life Member and join future live events: JoinLoveLife.com

The rules of modern dating can feel so confusing. You don’t know how much texting is too much, how to make the first move, or whether to keep trying if their interest is hot and cold. In this week’s video, I sat down with bestselling author Jay Shetty for his On Purpose podcast to talk about how to have confident, attractive communication and reject the shallow culture that defines so much of modern dating. If you’re tired of playing games and want to find real, honest love, this is for you. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at → http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

Can you relate to this . . . You’ve been dating someone for months and see them once or twice a week. You’ve gotten into a pretty good rhythm, but at the same time, things aren’t really moving forward either. You’re wondering: “Do they like me? I feel like they do, and yet, I don’t know whether this is going anywhere . . .” In this week’s brand-new video, I give you 3 specific things to look for when you want to know if someone’s serious (or headed in that direction). --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com

What REALLY kills relationships? We often think it’s huge differences in personality or values that cause break ups, but just as often it’s the small, subtle, repeated behaviours that lead to relationships ending. From the "Four Horsemen" of relationship conflict to the resentments that go unspoken until it’s too late, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey explore how these silent killers show up—and how to catch and heal them before they do lasting damage. Topics include A deep dive into criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling (and how they sabotage love) Why “repair” matters more than perfection in long-term relationships The unconscious reasons some people can't say sorry and how to deal with it How resentment builds when we don’t feel seen, appreciated, or included The importance of creating a relationship culture where nothing is off-limits to talk about A listener question about red flags before marriage The difference between expecting love to be perfect vs. building a love that lasts Links mentioned: 🎥 Watch the Dating Made Simple Replay (available until May 30th): https://www.LoveLifeReplay.com 💬 Try Matthew AI and ask your first questions for free: https://www.askMH.com 🎟️ Join us at the Miami Retreat (October 18–19): https://www.MHRetreat.com 💞 Become a Love Life Member and join future live events: https://www.JoinLoveLife.com 📧 Have a story, question, or want to share your favorite podcast moment? Email us at: podcast@matthewhussey.com