On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Today, Jay invites us to slow down and question the invisible beliefs quietly running our lives. He reveals how much of our stress, our careers, relationships, ambitions, and insecurities, isn’t the result of conscious choice, but of expectations we’ve inherited and never stopped to examine. At the heart of the episode is a disarming question: Are you living your life, or performing someone else’s script? What follows is a powerful unraveling, one that challenges avoidance, reshapes how we define ambition, and calls us into a more honest relationship with ourselves. Jay explores the subtle ways we hold ourselves back: staying busy to avoid clarity, mistaking force for discipline, and choosing relationships that reflect how we see ourselves rather than who we’re becoming. He shows how our environments, our circles, and even the roles we play begin to quietly shape our identity. Drawing from psychology, philosophy, and lived experience, he reframes growth not as chasing perfection, but as pursuing alignment, where our actions begin to match what truly matters, even when it’s uncomfortable. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Identify What You Truly Want How to Break Free from Inherited Beliefs How to Stop Being Busy and Start Being Effective How to Choose People Who Elevate You How to Let Go of Suffering That No Longer Serves You How to Build Better Relationships with Yourself If there’s one thing to remember, it’s this: you are not behind, you are evolving. Every doubt, every mistake, every moment of uncertainty is not proof that you’re failing, but evidence that you’re growing. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:11 10 Harsh Truths That Will Change Your Life 02:07 #1: What You Avoid Is What You Need Most 05:16 #2: Are You Chasing What You Actually Want? 08:17 #3: The Cost of Pretending to Be Someone You’re Not 11:55 #4: Discipline Is Choosing What Matters, Not What’s Easy 15:00 #5: Your Inner Circle Directly Shapes Your Life 18:00 #6: Busyness Is the Ultimate Distraction 19:55 #7: Your Suffering Won’t Be Rewarded 22:48 #8: Your 30s Are Built in Your 20s 25:47 #9: Your Relationship With Yourself Comes First 28:20 #10: You Don’t Find Your Life You Build It 29:27 Final Reflections & Takeaways See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve been taught that success at work is what leads to happiness, but in reality, it’s how work actually feels that shapes the rest of our lives. Jay sits down with Jan-Emmanuel De Neve, Professor of Economics and Behavioural Science at the University of Oxford and Director of the Wellbeing Research Centre, and almost immediately, they land on something most of us feel but rarely say out loud: work takes up the majority of our lives, yet very few of us actually feel good while doing it. Jan shares a striking reality - less than a quarter of people report high levels of wellbeing at work. More importantly, how you feel at work doesn’t stay there, it follows you home. It shapes how you speak to your partner, how you show up for your kids, even how you engage with the world around you. This conversation isn’t just about jobs or careers, it’s about the emotional tone of our lives, and ultimately, our society. Together, they explore why so many people, especially younger generations, are struggling right now. While it’s easy to point to social media, Jan challenges that idea and points to something deeper: rising costs, uncertainty about the future, and a growing sense that the path forward isn’t as clear as it once was. There’s a quiet anxiety about whether hard work still pays off. In a world full of answers, the real skill now is asking better questions. It’s a subtle yet powerful shift, from chasing certainty to embracing curiosity. Jay and Jan unpack the relationship between money and happiness, revealing a truth that feels both grounding and surprising: beyond a certain point, more money doesn’t lead to more fulfillment. What we begin to crave instead is connection, meaning, and time, the very things we often sacrifice in the pursuit of success. In this episode you'll learn: How to Improve Your Wellbeing at Work Without Changing Jobs How to Find Meaning in Work That Feels Repetitive How to Build Stronger Connections in a Lonely Workplace How to Balance Ambition and Wellbeing Without Burning Out How to Redefine Success Beyond Money and Status How to Ask Better Questions in an Uncertain Future How to Create a Workplace Culture People Actually Enjoy How to Stay Happy Even as Responsibilities Grow How to Make Work Feel More Human and Less Transactional How to Protect Your Energy While Still Performing at Your Best When you begin to prioritize those things, even in small ways, you’ll notice something powerful: your energy changes, your perspective shifts, and your life starts to feel more aligned. Why does workplace wellbeing matter? Find out the answer here: http://whyworkplacewellbeingmatters.com/ The World Happiness Report is the world’s foremost publication on global wellbeing and how to improve it. To learn more, visit https://www.worldhappiness.report/ Learn more about interdisciplinary research on wellbeing at the University of Oxford by visiting https://wellbeing.hmc.ox.ac.uk/ With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:33 What Actually Makes Us Happy? 03:11 Why Young People Are Struggling 05:40 The Rising Cost of Education 08:09 Skills That Matter More Now 11:11 How Much Money Is Enough? 18:46 Why Are Youth People Less Happy? 21:14 The Hidden Cost of Loneliness 29:42 Why Feeling Good at Work Changes Everything 33:15 What Great Leaders Do Differently 36:14 Most Leaders Get This Wrong 46:17 What Actually Makes Work Feel Good 50:41 The Biggest Lie We Believe About Work 54:34 Remote Work Is Breaking Something We Didn’t Expect 58:16 Does Your Work Follow You Home? 01:00:13 The Signs You’re in a Toxic Workplace 01:00:41 Why Your Work Feels Meaningless (And...

Parenting today feels like navigating endless advice while quietly wondering if you’re doing any of it right. Jay sits down with bestselling author and economist Emily Oster to unpack one of the most overwhelming journeys many people will ever face: becoming a parent. In a world filled with endless advice, social media pressure, and conflicting research, parenting can start to feel like a test you’re constantly failing. Emily offers a refreshing, data-driven perspective that helps parents cut through the noise, separating real evidence from the myths that fuel unnecessary anxiety. From pregnancy and fertility to sleep training and screen time, this conversation reveals what truly matters and what parents can finally let go of. Together, Jay and Emily challenge many of the parenting beliefs we’ve accepted without question. They explore why modern parents feel so overwhelmed by information and expectations, when the data actually shows there are many “right” ways to raise a child. Emily breaks down how correlation is often mistaken for causation in parenting advice and how that misunderstanding quietly drives guilt, fear, and comparison. Whether it’s breastfeeding versus formula, screen time, sleep training, or developmental milestones, Emily encourages parents to move away from perfection and toward confident, thoughtful decision-making. In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Overthinking Parenting Decisions How to Decide What Parenting Advice to Ignore How to Choose the Sleep Strategy That Works for Your Family How to Raise Kids with a Growth Mindset How to Plan Parenting Decisions Before Problems Arise How to Let Go of the Pressure to Parent Perfectly Parenting can feel overwhelming, especially in a world filled with endless advice, opinions, and expectations. The truth is, raising a child isn’t about getting every small decision perfectly right, it’s about showing up with love, care, and intention, day after day. Emily’s book, Expecting Better: Why the Conventional Pregnancy Wisdom Is Wrong--and What You Really Need to Know, offers guidance through pregnancy and motherhood. Grab a copy now. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:39 Why Does Parenting Feel Harder Today? 04:06 What the Data Really Says About Parenting 05:24 Don’t Trust This Fertility Advice! 07:56 What Affects Sperm Health 09:51 Lifestyle Habits That Affect Fertility 12:26 Are Antidepressants Safe During Pregnancy? 15:02 Which Pregnancy Rules Actually Matter (And Which Don’t) 18:25 When Is the Best Age to Have Kids? 21:56 Common Pregnancy Myths Debunked 31:19 How Dads Can Support After Birth 34:09 What’s Actually Best for the Baby? 36:51 More Parenting and Pregnancy Myths 44:20 How to Deal With Mom Guilt 47:55 How to Raise Confident Kids 54:28 Parenting Decisions That Cause Stress 56:27 The Truth About Sleep Training 01:02:03 Does Crying It Out Harm Attachment? 01:04:12 How Much Screen Time Is Too Much? 01:09:40 The Truth About Childhood Vaccines 01:12:02 Are Kids Being Overmedicated? 01:14:35 The Many Paths to Parenthood 01:16:49 This or That: Parenting Edition 01:24:31 Emily on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://parentdata.org/ Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/emily.oster.509/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/profemilyoster LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/company/parentdata TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@profemilyoster X | https://x.com/ProfEmilyOster See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How many times have you said something, and it didn’t come across the way you meant it to? Today, Jay unpacks why so many of us feel unheard at work, at home, and even in our closest relationships. He shares a powerful insight: communication isn’t defined by what you say, but by how it’s received. Most of us overestimate how clearly we express ourselves, creating a hidden gap between intention and impact. Jay reframes communication as a shared responsibility, reminding us that real connection isn’t about winning arguments, but about being clear, compassionate, and protecting the relationship while speaking your truth. Jay then explores the core principles that help people actually listen, beginning with the ability to regulate your nervous system before you speak. When emotions take over, we react rather than respond, often escalating conflict instead of easing it. He highlights why clarity is more powerful than intensity, and how simple, intentional language fosters trust and cooperation, while emotional overload creates distance. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Communicate So People Actually Listen How to Regulate Your Emotions Before Speaking How to Speak Without Triggering Defensiveness How to Ask Questions That Build Understanding How to De-escalate Difficult Conversations When you focus on being understood instead of being right, conversations become safer, relationships grow stronger, and conflict loses its power. With intention, patience, and compassion, your words can become a bridge, not a barrier, to the life and relationships you truly want. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast SpringFest is happening now, and our best lineup is here at http://www.lowes.com What We Discuss: 00:47 Are You a Good Communicator? 02:31 How Effective Communicators Make an Impact 03:24 #1: Regulate Before You Communicate 06:24 #2: Clarity Over Intensity 08:40 #3: People Argue with Threat NOT Facts 11:11 #4: Ask More Questions, Make Fewer Statements 12:51 #5: Tone Carries More Than Words 15:27 #6: End Conversations with Alignment 21:13 The Goal of Proper Communication See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if everything you’ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care? Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn’t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards. Jay highlights how David’s success wasn’t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest’s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget. In this episode you'll learn: How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth How to Build Relationships That Last How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued How to Build Confidence Without a Title How to Give Feedback That Actually Works How to Stay Grounded While Winning Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel. If you’re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don’t miss David Grutman’s latest book, Take It Personal. Pre-order your copy today, visit: https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:11 Why You Should Take It Personal 05:26 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen 07:48 The Real Path to Self-Improvement 08:47 Turning Anger Into Growth 09:55 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works 11:22 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience 12:41 Every Day Is a New Opportunity 14:20 Always Bet on Yourself 16:14 Building Something From Nothing 18:06 The Power of Genuine Relationships 21:33 Does Networking Actually Work? 24:09 How to Play the Long Game 28:31 The Truth About Real Success 31:10 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood 32:36 Becoming the Parent You Needed 33:57 Balancing Ambition and Family Life 35:12 Evolving Into Your Next Chapter 38:01 The Power of Being a Connector 39:35 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset 41:27 Check Your Ego at the Door 43:36 Staying Grounded While Winning 45:38 The Strength of a True Partnership 48:23 What Makes a Truly Great Idea? 50:19 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On? 51:40 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect 52:52 Finding Joy in the Present Moment 54:17 The One Rule to Live By: Just Be Good 56:14 David in Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://groothospitality.com/ Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/ X | https://x.com/DaveGrutman See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jay sits down with singer-songwriter Noah Kahan to break down the pressure that comes after “making it” - the imposter syndrome, the constant comparison, and the fear of losing it all. Noah shares how music became his escape from anxiety growing up, what it felt like to finally land the record deal he dreamed of, and why success didn’t silence the doubt, it amplified it. Jay and Noah unpack the myth of the “tortured artist,” and the quiet fear that healing might take away what makes you creative. Noah opens up about his recent OCD diagnosis, how he let go of the belief that he had to suffer for his art, and what it took to find his voice again without relying on pain. Noah speaks candidly about his struggles with body dysmorphia and the unexpected therapy of creating his documentary. Together they explore what it means to find balance and to stop performing for the world so you can finally be seen by the people who matter most. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Defining Your Worth by Your Work How to Face Your Unseen Fears Through Therapy How to Stay Present When Life Feels Overwhelming How to Extract Lessons from Painful Feedback How to Handle the Fear of Losing Your Success How to Stay Grounded Between Praise and Criticism How to Prioritize Your Time Over the Endless Grind Whether you are navigating a major life transition or simply trying to find your footing in a loud world, remember that your self-worth is not a mathematical equation based on your latest achievement. No one should have to navigate their mental health journey alone. Join Noah in the mission to prove that the more we share our stories, the more we empower others to do the same. Visit: https://www.busyheadproject.org/ With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:54 Seeing Yourself Through the Eyes of Others 04:39 The Childhood Memory That Defined My Career 05:42 Middle Child Energy and the Need to Be Heard 06:57 Music Was My Only Plan A 08:44 The Disconnect Between Fitting In and Being Genuine 11:09 Expressing Yourself Without Giving Yourself Away 14:05 Songwriting: The Constant Search for a Simpler Life 17:25 Every Creative Process Is Different 18:52 When What You Do Becomes Who You Are 24:07 The Power of Journaling Your Lessons 27:05 Does Healing Kill Creativity? 29:48 My Biggest Regret in Communicating with Family 32:43 The Vulnerability of Filming Your Private Life 36:32 Healing and Finding Peace as a Family 43:51 Has Success Made Mental Health Harder or Better? 46:19 The Honest Truth about Body Dysmorphia 52:09 Living and Dying by Your Own Honesty 57:40 The Difference Between Going to Therapy and Doing Therapy 01:00:24 Do You Secretly Find Comfort in Your Pain? 01:02:01 Re-evaluating What Truly Matters After Success 01:05:59 Finding the Strength to Believe in Yourself 01:11:04 Protecting Your Heart While Taking Criticism 01:14:06 Stability Rooted in Love and Marriage 01:20:48 Would You Rather? 01:22:55 Gut Reaction 01:25:46 Noah on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://noahkahan.com/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/c/NoahKahan Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/noahkahanmusic Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/noahkahanmusic/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@noahkahanmusic X | https://x.com/NoahKahan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay shares how, before we even get out of bed, our minds are already filled with worries, quiet anxieties, and thoughts we didn’t choose. Instead of intentionally creating our day, most of us unknowingly inherit stress from yesterday. Drawing on both modern neuroscience and ancient wisdom traditions, Jay reframes the morning not as a routine, but as the foundation of our mental “operating system”, a critical window where our thoughts shape how we experience the next 16 hours. Rather than relying on empty affirmations, Jay offers a more grounded, evidence-based approach rooted in how the brain actually works. He explains how our minds are most programmable in the early morning, when emotions are heightened and our critical thinking is still waking up. This creates a rare opportunity to interrupt automatic patterns, reset our focus, and consciously direct our attention before the world begins to pull us in different directions. In this episode you'll learn: How to Take Control of Your Mind First Thing in the Morning How to Stop Inheriting Anxiety Each Day How to Rewire Your Thoughts in Minutes How to Protect Your Attention Early How to Measure Your Day with Purpose Not Productivity Every morning is a quiet reset, an opportunity that doesn’t ask for perfection, only intention. You don’t need to have everything figured out, and you don’t need to feel ready. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:26 Your Morning Is Programming the Rest of Your Day 04:17 The Creator's Hour 08:48 #1: I Am Awake Before My Problems 12:29 #2: I Am Not Yesterday 15:17 #3: Today I Direct My Attention 18:40 #4: I Won't Try to Solve Problems That Haven't Happened Yet 21:48 #5: My Body Isn't a Vehicle For My Head 25:14 #6: I Focus on What Matters Most, Not What Feels Urgent 28:25 #7: I Measure Today by Who I Am, Not Just What I Achieve See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special live conversation at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver, Canada, Jay sits down with renowned physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté for a deeply moving exploration of identity, healing, and the hidden patterns that shape our lives. Gabor explains that our obsession with how others perceive us often begins in childhood, when our fundamental need to be seen and understood isn’t fully met. In response, many people unconsciously adapt, hiding parts of themselves or becoming who they think others want them to be in order to feel accepted and loved. In this episode you'll Learn: How to Stop Living for Others’ Approval How to Break Generational Trauma Patterns How to Know If You’re Living Your True Life How to Stop Tying Your Worth to Productivity How to Recognize When Stress Is Hurting You How to Listen to Your Inner Voice Again How to Start Saying “No” Without Feeling Guilty How to Practice Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Criticism How to Turn Your Past Coping Patterns Into Healing How to Ask the Question That Changes Your Life Real change doesn’t come from forcing yourself to be perfect or trying to fix everything overnight. It begins with small moments of awareness, pausing long enough to listen to that quiet inner voice, asking honest questions about what feels true for you, and giving yourself permission to honor it. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:41 Why Do We Care So Much About Others’ Opinions? 03:10 Learning to Love People the Way They Need 04:53 How Childhood Shapes Our Need for Approval 06:46 The Dangerous Belief: “I’m Only Valuable If…” 11:02 Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Rest? 12:37 What Stress Is Really Doing to Your Brain and Body 16:19 Saying “No” Is Essential for Your Wellbeing 21:05 The Power of Asking Yourself Honest Questions 23:44 How to Listen to Your Gut Again 29:52 A Live Compassionate Inquiry Session 33:23 Your Healing Is Helping Your Children 35:08 Trusting the Wisdom Already Inside You 36:53 Your Coping Mechanisms Aren’t Failures 40:11 Turning Past Mistakes Into Lessons 41:45 Balancing Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance 47:54 The Question That Can Change Your Life Episode Resources: Website | https://drgabormate.com/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/drgabormate Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/gabormatemd/ X | https://x.com/drgabormate See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many of us have been on countless dead-end dates, excited by the wrong people, overlooking the right ones, and left wondering why finding a healthy relationship still feels so complicated. Jay sits down with behavioral scientist and dating coach Logan Ury to explore why modern dating feels harder than ever and what we can actually do to build meaningful relationships in a world full of options. Together, they unpack the hidden psychology behind attraction, the myths we believe about “the spark,” and how dating apps have changed the way we evaluate potential partners. Logan shares how many people unknowingly sabotage their chances at love by chasing instant chemistry instead of long-term compatibility, reminding us that the strongest relationships are often built through curiosity, emotional safety, and shared values rather than immediate intensity. Jay and Logan also dive into the patterns that keep people stuck in cycles of disappointing relationships. From the pressure to find the “perfect” partner to the fear of vulnerability, they discuss how modern dating culture can create unrealistic expectations. Logan explains the difference between people who date intentionally and those who drift through relationships without clarity, and why small mindset shifts, like asking better questions, focusing on growth potential, and recognizing emotional availability, can dramatically change our outcomes. The conversation highlights how understanding our own habits, attachment styles, and communication patterns can help us show up more authentically in love. In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Chasing the Wrong People How to Look Beyond the First Date Spark How to Choose Compatibility Over Chemistry How to Date with Clear Intentions How to Avoid the “Maximizer” Dating Trap How to Ask Better Questions on Dates How to Build Attraction That Grows Over Time How to Date in a World of Endless Options If dating has ever made you feel discouraged, confused, or like you’re falling behind, you’re not alone. Building a meaningful relationship in today’s world can feel overwhelming, but the truth is that love isn’t about finding someone perfect, it’s about finding someone willing to grow with you. What are your dating blind spots? Take the quiz to find out! www.loganury.com/quiz If you’re ready to understand your patterns in love and build healthier relationships, check out How to Not Die Alone. Click here to order: https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622 With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:11 The Problem with Modern Dating Expectations 04:16 The Three Types of Daters 06:30 Do You Believe In a Soulmate? 08:20 Why Dating Burnout Is So Common 10:23 Why Does Dating Feel So Difficult Today? 14:04 Why Hustle Culture Fails in Dating 15:46 Two Ways to Approach Dating Intentionally 18:52 What Is “Chalant” Dating? 21:35 When Rejection Becomes Content 24:12 The Rise of a Hesitant Generation 26:01 Why We’re Afraid to Make a Move 27:14 The Challenge of Male Vulnerability 29:23 Why Rejection Feels So Personal 32:21 The Fear of Choosing the Wrong Person 38:01 What Actually Predicts Long-Term Relationship Success? 44:36 The Biggest Lie We’re Told About Love 47:13 The Myth of the Movie-Moment First Meeting 49:22 Are Dating Apps Making Us Replaceable? 50:19 Start by Fixing Your Dating Profile 53:58 How to Optimize Your Dating Profile 01:08:07 Make It Easy for People to Engage with You 01:10:01 What Is Friction-Maxing? 01:12:11 “Rose Jail” on Hinge 01:15:58 Choosing a Partner Takes Real Effort 01:17:13 Do You Believe in “Right Person, Wrong Time?” 01:18:22 Are People Giving Up Too...

Jay explores a moment many of us know all too well, walking into a room full of strangers and instantly feeling small, anxious, or out of place. Instead of assuming something is wrong with you, he reframes it through what’s actually happening in the brain. In those moments, your brain shifts into protection mode. It starts scanning for social threats and triggers a stress response. When that happens, the very things that help you connect, what to say, how to be yourself, how to feel at ease, can suddenly feel harder to access. What we often call awkwardness or insecurity isn’t really about who you are, it's your nervous system doing its job, trying to protect you from rejections. Jay then reframes social confidence in a powerful way: connection isn’t about impressing people, it’s about helping them feel comfortable around you. He shares seven practical shifts, like arriving with intention instead of expectations, calming your nervous system, staying genuinely curious, and focusing on the first few moments of interaction, to show that authentic presence is far more magnetic than charisma. Research shows that people are drawn to those who make them feel heard and understood, and the simple act of asking thoughtful follow-up questions can dramatically increase likability and connection. Instead of trying to be the most interesting person in the room, the real secret is becoming the most interested. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Calm Your Nervous System Before Social Events How to Make People Feel Safe Around You Instantly How to Make a Powerful First Impression in Seconds How to Position Yourself to Meet More People Naturally How to Make People Feel Heard and Valued If social situations have ever made you feel anxious, awkward, or unsure of yourself, remember this: nothing is wrong with you. Your brain is simply doing what it was designed to do, protect you. What people truly respond to is presence, curiosity, and the feeling of being genuinely seen. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter.Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:44 Do You Feel Anxious in New Social Settings? 05:47 #1: Replace Expectation with an Intention 08:07 #2: Be the First to Provide a Safe Space 11:42 #3: Stop Trying to Be Interesting & Be Interested 15:02 #4: Master the Art of the First Ten Seconds 18:16 #5: Use the Power of Proximity and Positioning 21:15 #6: Give People a Role 23:58 #7: Leave Before You're Done 26:27 Social Confidence Isn't About Impressing People See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What’s one thing you’ve been doing that might actually be making your progress harder, not better? Jay sits down with Dr. Shannon Ritchey to discuss deeply ingrained beliefs we’ve been carrying about fitness, health, and our bodies, and what emerges is a powerful invitation to rethink everything. With warmth and clarity, Shannon challenges the idea that more effort always equals more results, revealing that many of us are stuck in cycles of overexertion, burnout, and frustration not because we’re doing too little but because we’re doing too much of the wrong things. Instead of chasing exhaustion, soreness, or perfection, Shannon introduces the idea of “gentle consistency”, a rhythm of training that prioritizes proper stimulus, recovery, and long-term progress. She dismantles myths like “no pain, no gain” and “more cardio equals more fat loss,” showing that true results come from intentional strength training, adequate recovery, and aligning your workouts with your lifestyle. More importantly, she highlights that fitness isn’t just physical, it’s deeply mental. When we let go of guilt, unrealistic expectations, and all-or-nothing thinking, we create space for a healthier, more compassionate relationship with ourselves. In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Overtraining Your Body How to Build Strength Without Burnout How to Train Smarter, Not Harder How to Create a Sustainable Fitness Routine How to Balance Effort and Recovery How to Work With Your Body, Not Against It You don’t need to exhaust yourself to prove your effort or chase extremes to feel worthy of progress. What truly matters is building habits you can return to again and again, with patience and self-respect guiding the way. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:23 Debunking Common Exercise Myths 10:07 Building a Healthier Relationship With Your Body 14:11 Why Your Workout Isn’t Building Muscle 19:57 Why Structure Matters in Strength Training 22:37 Why Less Soreness Can Be Better 27:37 Choosing the Right Exercises That Work 29:34 Can You Actually Build Muscle Faster? 31:04 Why Protein Is Essential for Muscle Growth 32:44 Understanding Body Recomposition 35:44 What Is Effective Training Stimulus? 40:29 Should You Go Beyond 30 Reps? 43:34 Start With Bodyweight and Keep Moving 47:08 The Biggest Weight Loss Mistake 49:35 You Can Build Muscle at Any Age 50:19 Why Nutrition Is Key for Weight Loss 52:29 The Truth About Cheat Meals 56:57 Finding Balance in Your Fitness Routine 59:10 Why Feet Are the Most Neglected Body Part 01:02:41 Why You Should Train Your Eyes 01:04:19 How to Improve Your Posture 01:06:48 Simple Ways to Get Your Body Moving 01:09:25 Why Fitness Doesn’t Have to Be Complicated 01:10:34 Four Keys to Muscle Growth 01:13:46 Learning to Be Kind to Yourself 01:14:22 The Risk of Overtraining and Chronic Pain 01:15:16 Knowing When to Rest and Recover 01:16:56 Shannon on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://evlofitness.com/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@TheDr.ShannonShow Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/evlofitness Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/dr.shannon.dpt/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/evlofitness/ LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannondpt TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.shannonritchey TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@evlofitness See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay sits down with his dear friend Nischa Shah, a former investment banker and accountant who walked away from a high-status corporate career to help people rethink their relationship with money, success, and freedom. Nischa reflects on the “dark phase” she experienced while climbing the corporate ladder, realizing that the prestige and polish of banking had created a deep disconnect from her true self. Nischa invites listeners to confront a powerful question many of us avoid: “Would I still be happy if I were living the same life five or ten years from now?” Jay and Nischa shift into practical strategies for navigating money anxiety. Nischa introduces the “ostrich effect,” which is the psychological tendency to avoid looking at our finances out of fear. She shares her simple but powerful “three-bucket” approach to personal finance, where income is intentionally divided between fundamentals, fun, and the “future you.” By reframing the goal from financial success to financial happiness, Nischa offers a clearer, more intentional way to manage money, one that prioritizes peace of mind over status or external validation. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Assess Your Career Alignment How to Calculate a Financial Cushion How to Manage Income Using the Three-Bucket Method How to Audit Spending with Three Key Questions How to Turn Financial Knowledge into Action How to Strategize Paying Off Debt vs. Investing How to Increase Your Value and Earning Potential It is never too late to begin reclaiming your narrative, whether that starts with building a small financial safety net for peace of mind or finally turning knowledge into decisive action. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:54 Questioning the Traditional Path 03:22 The Courage to Walk Away 06:14 Calculating Your Financial Runway 07:04 Separating Your Self-Worth from Your Title 10:49 What is the Ostrich Effect? 13:45 Fighting Instant Gratification 14:28 Ask Yourself These Three Questions Before Buying Anything 18:30 Micro-Habits That Build Real Wealth 21:29 Spending With Intention 23:33 Why More Money Doesn’t Always Fix Money Problems 28:49 Financial Success vs. Financial Happiness 31:03 Is there Such a Thing as Passive Income? 34:06 Mastering Long-Term Investing 36:42 Should You Buy a Home? 37:42 Breaking the Scarcity Mindset 42:01 Stop Spending to Impress People 44:31 The Problem With Constantly Upgrading 45:55 How Can You Be of Value To Others? 49:07 Focus on Earning More, Not Just Cutting Costs 53:40 Defining Your Personal Freedom 54:52 The Entrepreneurship vs. Employment Trap 56:37 Investing in Your Own Skills 58:47 Short-Term Joy vs. Long-Term Security 01:00:50 We All Make Financial Mistakes! 01:01:31 It’s Never Too Late 01:02:48 This or That: Money Edition 01:06:34 Nischa on Final Five Episode Resources: YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@nischa Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567018784328 Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/nischa.me/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/discover/nischa-shah See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay invites us to reconsider something we interact with every day but rarely use to its full potential. He challenges the way we see AI, not as a productivity shortcut, but as a powerful mirror for self-awareness. Instead of using it to draft emails or plan meals, Jay reframes it as a space for honest, structured conversations with ourselves, something many of us avoid. Jay breaks down practical ways to use AI as a tool for inner growth, from conducting a brutally honest life audit to uncovering hidden patterns of self-sabotage. He explains how our minds often protect us from uncomfortable truths, keeping us stuck in cycles we don’t fully understand. When we put our thoughts into words, we create enough distance from our emotions to start seeing patterns we’ve been missing. This isn’t about replacing human connection, but about strengthening it by first learning how to understand ourselves more clearly, honestly, and compassionately. In this episode you'll learn: How to Use AI for Deep Self-Awareness How to Turn AI Into Your Thinking Partner How to Build Your Personal Operating System How to Decode Your Emotional Triggers You don’t have to fix everything overnight. You just have to begin. Because the moment you choose to understand yourself more deeply is the moment your life starts to change. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 The Most Powerful Way to Use AI 02:47 Why ChatGPT Isn’t Just a Search Engine 05:25 #1: Do a Brutally Honest Life Audit 08:13 #2: Decoding Your Self-Sabotage Patterns 11:02 #3: Build Your Personal Operating System 13:44 #4: Practice the Hard Conversations First 17:08 #5: Build an Accountability System That Works 20:07 #6: Break Down Your Emotional Patterns in Real Time 23:00 #7: Write the Letter You Never Sent See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Friendship can feel effortless when we’re young, but as life grows busier and our paths begin to diverge, maintaining meaningful relationships becomes far more complex. Today, Jay brings together powerful conversations with a group of insightful guests to explore why adult friendships change and what it truly takes to build connections that last. Together, these perspectives reveal that friendship isn’t something that simply happens, it’s something we intentionally create and nurture over time. Mel Robbins explains why friendships often become harder after our twenties, describing the “great scattering” that happens when people move in different directions and life timelines begin to shift. Andrew Huberman explores the science behind connection and why simple habits like checking in with someone or asking deeper questions can help us feel more seen and understood. Robin Sharma reflects on the idea that a few truly meaningful friendships can be more powerful than a large social circle, encouraging us to focus on relationships that bring joy, growth, and mutual support. Trevor Noah shares how his closest friends help anchor him through the loneliness of touring and remind him who he is during difficult moments. Marianna Hewitt talks about the importance of protecting your energy and choosing friendships that leave you feeling energized rather than drained. Together, these conversations remind us that real friendships aren’t defined by how often we see someone, but by the depth of trust, acceptance, and connection we create with the people who truly matter. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Meaningful Friendships as an Adult How to Reach Out to Friends You’ve Lost Touch With How to Build a Support System That Truly Lasts How to Maintain Friendships Even When Life Gets Busy How to Strengthen Your Circle With Small Daily Habits Real friendships are built through small moments, checking in, being present, listening without judgment, and showing up during both the joyful and difficult times. When we make the effort to reach out, to be vulnerable, and to be present for the people around us, we create connections that can carry us through every stage of life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:50 Why is It So Hard To Make Friends as an Adult? 11:04 Understanding the Loneliness Crisis 22:04 Let Joy Guide Your Friendships 23:30 What Makes a Truly Great Friend? 25:58 How to Create Perfect Moments Together 29:52 Why Friendship Is a Choice 40:52 Recognizing Your Energy Drainers 44:28 Building Your Core Circle of Friends 46:36 Creating Healthy Social Circles 48:54 Mindful Eating When Socializing 51:03 Compromises That Strengthen Friendships 56:21 Being Raw and Real with Friends See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay sits down with communication expert Jefferson Fisher to explore why the conversations we avoid often shape our lives the most. Drawing from his experience as a trial lawyer turned teacher, Jefferson shares a powerful truth: communication isn’t about winning arguments, it’s about building peace. When we learn to face difficult conversations head on with clarity, courage, and compassion we stop people-pleasing, reconnect with who we truly are, and create deeper, more honest relationships. Avoidance may feel safer in the moment, but it always comes at a cost. Together, Jay and Jefferson unpack why so many conflicts spiral, not because of what’s said, but because of what’s heard. From romantic relationships to family dynamics, they reveal how most arguments are really about the need to feel understood, valued, and safe. Jefferson shares simple yes transformative tools, like asking “What did you hear?” or pausing to breathe before responding, that help slow heated moments and turn reaction into connection. He explains that true emotional intelligence is the ability to repair quickly, validate feelings without needing to agree, and choose understanding over defensiveness. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Face Difficult Conversations Without Fear How to Say the Hard Thing Without Starting a Fight How to Stay Calm When You Feel Triggered How to Make Someone Feel Understood Without Agreeing How to Repair a Conversation After You Mess Up How to Slow Down Arguments Before They Escalate How to Build Deeper Relationships Through Better Conversations Every honest sentence, every pause to breathe, every moment you choose understanding over reaction is a step toward a more peaceful life. Growth doesn’t come from avoiding what’s hard, it comes from meeting it with intention, patience, and compassion. Get your own copy of Jefferson’s latest book, The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:11 How Good Communication Creates a Life of Peace 02:14 Why Facing Difficult Conversations Changes Everything 04:53 Your Fear of Upsetting Others Is Valid 06:45 The Biggest Communication Mistake We All Make 09:45 Can You Actually Change Someone’s Mind? 12:31 How to Reach Someone Who Refuses to Communicate 16:17 Winning Arguments Should Never Be the Goal 19:43 What to Do When Your Partner Triggers You 21:21 The Patience Required to Create Real Connection 25:42 How Should I Respond to the Silent Treatment? 30:13 The Clearest Sign Someone Doesn’t Truly Care 32:10 When a Relationship May Be Beyond Repair 35:00 Why Radical Honesty Strengthens Relationships 38:03 When Your Partner Can’t Handle the Hard Conversations 41:31 The Small Moments Where Repair Gets Missed 44:20 Do You Feel Judged by Your Parents? 51:53 How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty 55:14 How to Stop Saying Things You Don’t Mean 58:04 Setting Boundaries That Actually Stick 01:00:37 What to Do When a Coworker Keep Interrupting You 01:03:15 Overexplaining Undermines Your Confidence 01:06:06 Breaking the Us vs. Them Mentality 01:11:25 Jefferson on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXjnpu6lK0HoUyOMh2ZBwhQ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/justaskjefferson/ X | https://x.com/jefferson_fishr LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If a breakup has ever left you feeling physically sick, emotionally lost, and not feeling like yourself, nothing is wrong with you. You’re grieving. Today, Jay speaks directly to anyone navigating the quiet devastation of heartbreak, reminding them that nothing is “wrong” with them for feeling the way they do. He explains that breakups don’t just hurt emotionally, they activate the same neural pathways as physical pain and withdrawal. What you’re experiencing isn’t weakness or failure; it’s grief. Jay reframes the end of a relationship not simply as losing a person, but as losing a future you imagined, the routines your nervous system depended on, and the version of yourself that existed within that relationship. Jay walks us through the five stages of breakup grief, showing how numbness is a form of protection, why the mind gets stuck in rumination after loss, and how anger can signal the return of self-respect. Rather than rushing to “move on,” he encourages simple practices like building small routines, writing down obsessive thoughts, setting boundaries, and resisting the highlight reel your mind creates that makes you only remember the good. The stages aren’t a straight line, but a map that helps you move through uncertainty with more grace and self-compassion. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Rebuild Your Routine After a Breakup How to Break the Cycle of Rumination How to Express Anger in a Healthy Way How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Healing How to Move Through Sadness Without Rushing It How to Create Meaning After Loss Be gentle with yourself in this season. Lean on the people who show up for you. Rebuild your routines slowly. One day, this chapter will no longer be the center of your story, it will be the turning point that makes you wiser, stronger, and more secure in who you are. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:19 Biggest Mistake Made During a Break Up 02:34 You’re Actually Experiencing Grief 07:40 Stage #1: Shock and Denial 10:12 2 Ways to Overcome the Shock 12:58 Stage #2: Bargaining and Obsession 17:45 Stage #3: Anger and Protest 21:49 Stage #4: Sadness and Depression 24:33 Stage #5: Acceptance and Meaning 26:24 This is How You Heal See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For many women, the real challenge isn’t just unexplained health problems, it’s being heard when they seek help. Jay sits down with Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi, or "Dr. A", to unpack a silent crisis affecting millions of women around the world: undiagnosed PCOS and endometriosis. This isn’t just a discussion about fertility, but a masterclass on hormones, inflammation, mental health, and the painful reality of medical gaslighting. PCOS, a condition shaped by insulin resistance, hormonal imbalance, chronic inflammation, and neurological disruption, is often overlooked, leaving women struggling with anxiety, depression, weight gain, irregular periods, and infertility without answers. Dr. A shares how insulin resistance acts as the “first domino,” triggering a domino effect that impacts everything from ovulation to mood, and emphasizes that true healing requires addressing all four pillars, not just masking symptoms with birth control. Dr. A challenges the outdated belief that painful periods are “normal,” explaining that severe pain, painful sex, chronic bloating, bladder symptoms, and bowel discomfort are signs something deeper may be wrong. She reveals that diagnosis takes an average of 9–11 years, and that many women are told their pain is psychological before they’re ever taken seriously. Through both science and lived clinical experience, she makes it clear: when inflammation and hormones are out of balance, mental health suffers too. Anxiety, depression, brain fog, and eating disorders are not personal failings, they are often physiological signals that something deeper is happening in the body. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Recognize the Signs of PCOS Early How to Reduce Insulin Resistance Naturally How to Tell if Your Period Pain Is “Normal” How to Protect Your Fertility in Your 20s and 30s How to Balance Hormones Beyond Birth Control How to Spot Hidden Symptoms of Endometriosis How to Lower Inflammation Through Lifestyle Changes If there’s one thing to take away from this conversation, it’s this: your body is not working against you, it’s communicating with you. Pain is not weakness. It is a signal and you deserve to have those signals taken seriously. To learn more about Dr. A’s advocacy on women’s health, check out: https://www.shemdpodcast.com/ With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:58 Are We Facing a Fertility Crisis? 03:58 What Is PCOS? 07:13 Why PCOS Often Goes Undiagnosed 09:15 The Impact of Insulin Resistance 15:06 Making PCOS Patients Insulin-Sensitive 19:37 The Nutritional Effects of GLP-1 Medications 22:14 High Androgens and Chronic Inflammation 25:39 How Hormonal Imbalances Affect the Brain 29:25 Why Birth Control Alone Isn’t Enough 31:23 How to Know If You Have PCOS 35:01 Painful Periods Are Not Normal 36:47 What Is Endometriosis? 46:07 The Most Effective Treatment Approach for Endometriosis 49:20 The Risks of Ignoring Endometriosis 53:09 How to Use Birth Control Strategically 56:04 What to Do If Egg Freezing Isn’t an Option 57:53 The Link Between Endometriosis and Leaky Gut 01:00:33 Potential IVF Complications Explained 01:04:38 A Scientific Approach to Infertility 01:10:01 What to Do If You’re Not Getting Pregnant Episode Resources: Website: https://ovii.com/ Website: https://www.draliabadi.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrej0PO97bg8GRMogtcKbbA Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThaisAliabadiMd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drthaisaliabadi/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay sits down with cultural icon Hilary Duff for a raw and honest conversation about growth, identity, and the quiet courage it takes to evolve in public. Having grown up alongside an entire generation, Hilary reflects on what it means to return to music after more than a decade with her sixth studio album, Luck or Something. She opens up about shedding politeness in favor of truth, embracing maturity without losing the joy of her past, and finally feeling rooted in who she is, not just as an artist, but as a woman, a mother, a partner, and a daughter. Jay and Hilary explore the hidden weight of fame, the loss of anonymity at a young age, and the resilience required to stay grounded in an industry that constantly defines you before you can define yourself. Hilary speaks vulnerably about navigating eating disorders, divorce, co-parenting, estrangement with family, and the reality of loving people through complicated relationships. Through it all, she shares how motherhood reshaped her priorities, how love taught her to accept stability over chaos, and how creativity became a necessary way of reconnecting with herself. Hilary’s reflections reveal a powerful truth: what the world often calls luck is usually years of quiet strength, hard choices, and inner work. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Trust Your Intuition Over “Luck” How to Grow Without Rejecting Your Past How to Accept Healthy Love (Even When It Feels Unfamiliar) How to Break Family Patterns Without Losing Compassion How to Balance Motherhood and Personal Ambition How to Hold Joy and Pain at the Same Time How to Reinvent Yourself Without Losing Who You Are You are allowed to choose steadiness over chaos, truth over politeness, and peace over performance. Growth isn’t always loud, sometimes it’s simply deciding you don’t want to repeat the same pattern again. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:04 The Joy of Being Celebrated 02:46 Choosing Truth Over Politeness 05:15 What’s a Childhood Memory That Keeps You Grounded? 06:56 The Truth About Growing Up in the Public Eye 11:38 Learning to Feel at Home in Your Own Skin 14:22 Where Real Confidence Comes From 19:08 Opening Your Heart to Love Again 21:28 Understanding the Weight of Marriage 25:03 Deciding to Fully Commit 26:24 Trusting Your Intuition 27:28 Owning the Work Behind Your Success 30:36 The Burden of Being the Family Peacemaker 36:18 Navigating Divorce with Intention 38:26 Sharing Your Story on Your Terms 43:50 Holding Joy and Hardship at the Same Time 46:44 Healing and Connecting Through Music 51:49 The Hilary Duff Renaissance 54:50 Staying Attuned to Your Children’s Needs 01:00:59 Building Confidence as a Parent 01:02:26 How Did You Name Your Kids? 01:04:27 Disney-Era “Would You Rather” 01:08:42 Hilary on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://www.hilaryduff.com/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSRmCrFvCPomTqjzwoF9MGw Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/HilaryDuff/ Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/hilaryduff/ TikTok | https://x.com/hilaryduff X | https://x.com/hilaryduff See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So many of us wake up and immediately feel behind. We reach for our phones, scroll through other people’s lives, and start reacting before we’ve even chosen how we want to feel. Today, Jay shares a powerful truth: the first 60 to 90 minutes after you wake up are the most programmable moments of your day. Your brain is in a unique, highly impressionable state and instead of using that window intentionally, most of us give it away. Jay breaks down six simple, science-backed habits that can transform your mornings without extreme routines or unrealistic expectations. He explains why hitting snooze actually makes you more tired, how morning sunlight boosts your energy and improves your sleep later that night, and how just 60 to 90 seconds of cold water can build stress resilience. He also shares the benefits of seven minutes of movement, a short handwritten journaling practice to clear mental clutter, and why delaying your phone for the first hour protects your focus and emotional baseline. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Hitting Snooze for Good How to Reset Your Nervous System in 90 Seconds How to Activate Your Brain in 7 Minutes How to Increase Focus Before 8AM How to Protect Your First Hour from Distractions How to Reprogram Your Mind Before the Day Begins Start with one habit. Let it be simple. Let it be sustainable. Because when you protect your mornings, you strengthen your mindset. And when you strengthen your mindset, you change the direction of your days and eventually, your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:13 Here's Something Nobody Tells You About Your Morning 02:09 Step #1: Stop Hitting the Snooze Button 06:01 Step #2: Sunlight in Your Eyes 09:35 Step #3: The 90-Second Cold Shower 12:59 Step #4: Move for 7 Minutes not 60 16:10 Step #5: The Brain Dump Journal 19:56 Step #6: Delay Phone Scrolling in the First Hour See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco, Dave Burd, and Kristin Batalucco for a first-of-its-kind conversation - three best friends building something together in real time. They talk about what that really looks like: how friendship changes when work gets involved, how marriage fits into ambition, where insecurity still shows up, and how messy it can be to create with people you genuinely love. Dave and Kristin tell the story of meeting at a bowling alley and how they almost got in their own way at the beginning. Benny opens up about what it was like to chase success for years and what shifted when he realized it wasn’t giving him what he thought it would. It’s funny, and honest, and gives you a real sense of who they are with each other, not just as collaborators, but as friends figuring life out together. With Jay's guidance they open up about commitment anxiety, the courage it takes to be emotionally direct, and the power of choosing your partner not playing games, not waiting to be chosen, but stepping forward with clarity. Kristen shares what it means to battle self-doubt while stepping into the public eye. Dave opens up about perfectionism and the tension between ambition and contentment. Benny reflects on how success once held him in a chokehold and how love reshaped his priorities. Together, they reveal that the healthiest relationships aren’t built on avoiding conflict, but on being able to argue passionately and return to love just as quickly. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love How to Stop Playing Dating Games How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection How to Support Your Partner’s Ambition Without Competing How to Work With Friends Without Ruining the Friendship How to Fall in Love With New Versions of Your Partner The strongest connections aren’t built by people who never argue, they’re built by people who know how to come back to each other after they do. Keep choosing openness. Keep choosing courage. Keep choosing each other. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:03 How Their Friendship Began 07:05 Dave and Kristin’s Love Story 11:37 From Dating to Marriage 18:39 When Friendship Grows With Marriage 20:19 Getting Married a Month Apart 28:05 Loving Every Version of Each Other 30:35 Launching a Show Together 35:12 The Loneliness Epidemic 39:07 Working With Family and Friends 42:13 How They Make Big Decisions 45:27 Pre-Show Nerves and Bathroom Confessions 48:18 Do They Believe in Astrology? 51:10 Friends Don’t Keep Secrets 01:13:28 Separating Work From Your Relationship 01:20:00 Do You Talk About Me When I Leave the Room? 01:23:37 If I Died, Would You Still Hang Out? Episode Resources: Website | https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets X | https://x.com/FKSpodcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.