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Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this data-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with social psychologist and Kinsey Institute researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller to break down what science actually tells us about our sexual fantasies, kinks, and casual hookups. This conversation is full of insights that will make you rethink what's "normal" in bed, and help you embrace your desires with more compassion and clarity. Dr. Lehmiller reveals the most common sexual fantasies (hint: kink is more mainstream than you think) and explains what our fantasies say about our emotional needs and life history. We explore the truth about gender differences in fantasies, how to safely explore kink and consensual non-monogamy, and research on why some people thrive with casual sex while others don't. This episode covers practical tips for talking about fantasies with your partner without shame or pressure, plus why self-awareness (not fantasy content) is the key to sexual fulfillment. Whether you're curious about exploring fantasies, navigating open relationships, or just want to understand the psychology of desire, this conversation brings research and real talk together in a way that's both validating and thought-provoking. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction & The Kink Revolution 4:07 - Fantasy vs Reality: The Threesome Gap 11:43 - Why Gay Men Have Better Threesomes 18:17 - What Gay vs Straight Men Really Have in Common 25:04 - The Kinsey Scale & Sexual Fluidity Explained 31:20 - Friends with Benefits: What Actually Works 35:00 - The Couples Vibrator Study Results 37:45 - Dutch Sex Education: What America Gets Wrong 44:13 - How to Talk to Kids About Masturbation 48:51 - Quickfire Questions: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, the magnetic Lizzy Jeff—rap priestess, medicine woman, and founder of Zen & Kush—joins Dr. Emily to dive into the world of cannabis and sensuality. Together, they unpack how CBD and THC can elevate sexual connection, unlock pleasure, and serve as sacred tools for healing and embodiment. Lizzy shares her personal journey with yoni oils, cannabis suppositories, and sacred self-touch, revealing how cannabis can enhance arousal, deepen orgasms, and help you stay present during intimate moments. We explore the power of mirror work, daily sensual rituals, and breath as tools for embodiment, plus how to set up a sex magic practice for manifestation. This episode covers practical guidance on strains, dosage, and product quality, while addressing common concerns like dry mouth, vaginal dryness, and staying present during sex. Lizzy's radiant energy and wisdom shine through as she explains how cannabis can be used intentionally to expand your sexual repertoire and connect with your most authentic, sensual self. Whether you're cannabis-curious, cautious, or already exploring plant medicine in the bedroom, this conversation is full of inspiration and practical tools to help you discover new dimensions of connection and pleasure. From the science of how THC and CBD affect your body to the spiritual aspects of sacred sexuality, this episode offers a holistic approach to cannabis and intimacy. Timestamps: 2:44 - Cannabis & Sex Statistics Overview 4:27 - Meet Lizzy Jeff: Rap Priestess & Medicine Woman 7:27 - Personal Cannabis & Sex Experiences 10:11 - Big Pussy Energy & CBD/THC Products 15:23 - Mantras for Staying Present During Sex 19:07 - Healing Sexual Trauma Through Cannabis 24:05 - Daily Body Connection & Self-Love Practices 25:38 - Dealing with Dry Mouth & Vagina 28:32 - Why Sex is Better Stoned 33:10 - Quickie Questions: Turn-Ons & Sex Advice 35:39 - Sex Magic: Manifesting Through Orgasm

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Join Dr. Emily as she sits down with meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to explore how mindfulness and meditation can transform your relationships and sex life. From creating space in relationships to finding authentic happiness, this conversation dives deep into practical tools for better living and loving. Light Watkins is a bestselling author, accomplished meditation teacher, and founder of the Shine Movement. He's an inspirational keynote speaker and workshop leader who has delivered wellness-themed talks around the globe. Timestamps [8:24] - Emily's personal meditation journey [10:01] - How meditation creates space between offense and reaction in relationships [14:55] - The correlation between meditation and sex [21:02] - Light's accountability hack [31:04] - Why happiness is like doing a pull-up [38:47] - How meditation changed Light's approach to sexual connection and intimacy [41:01] - Split-testing your inner voices [45:35] - The gratitude algorithm [52:52] - Quickie Questions

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Sign up for Dr. Emily's newsletter at sexwithemily.com for free guides, articles, and more ways to prioritize your pleasure and relationships. In this transformative episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily explores how our earliest childhood experiences create patterns that show up in our adult relationships and sex lives. This deep dive into attachment theory, trauma responses, and relationship patterns reveals why we often find ourselves repeating the same relationship dynamics over and over again. Dr. Emily breaks down the science behind how our nervous systems record experiences from the third trimester of pregnancy through early childhood, creating unconscious blueprints for how we navigate love, intimacy, and connection as adults. She explains the difference between explicit memories (things we consciously remember) and implicit memories (body-based memories that influence our behavior without our awareness). This episode unpacks common relationship patterns including the caretaker who becomes resentful, the person who chases unavailable partners, the over-communicator paired with someone who stonewalls, and the chameleon who loses themselves in relationships. Through real listener examples, Dr. Emily illustrates how childhood experiences of co-regulation (or lack thereof) shape our adult attachment styles. Key topics include understanding your primary unmet needs, recognizing "trauma tingles" versus genuine attraction, the difference between healthy novelty and addiction to drama, and why some people are drawn to emotional unpredictability. Dr. Emily also explores how these patterns specifically impact sexual connection, including dissociation during intimacy and the challenge of staying present with a partner. The episode offers practical tools for identifying your own patterns, understanding the difference between internal and external processing styles, recognizing stonewalling versus healthy space-taking, and beginning to heal these deeply ingrained responses. This conversation provides essential insights for anyone who wants to understand why they keep attracting the same types of partners or repeating familiar relationship dynamics. Let's get social: Instagram / sexwithemily X / sexwithemily Facebook / sexwithemily TikTok / sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here - https://sexwithemily.com/text Timestamps: [0:00] - Introduction [15:20] - The Science of Early Memory Formation [18:50] - Common Pattern #1: The Caretaker Who Becomes Resentful [28:50] - Common Pattern #2: Chasing Unavailable Partners [39:00] - The Art of Staying Present in Relationships [43:20] - Common Pattern #3: Over-Communication vs. Stonewalling [52:40] - Common Pattern #4: The Chameleon Effect [56:00] - Trauma Tingles vs. Real Attraction [1:04:15] - The Performance Trap in Dating

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Sign up for Dr. Emily's newsletter at sexwithemily.com for free guides, articles, and more ways to prioritize your pleasure and relationships. In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with Jeffrey Marsh, the first openly non-binary public figure interviewed on national television, author of "How to Be You," and a Zen-trained meditation teacher who has helped millions embrace self-acceptance. This conversation goes deep into identity, authenticity, and the radical act of loving yourself exactly as you are. Jeffrey shares their journey from childhood feelings of not fitting into traditional gender roles to becoming a leading voice for non-binary visibility and self-compassion. We explore the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation, the importance of using correct pronouns as basic respect, and how Jeffrey's 20+ years of Zen practice has shaped their approach to self-love and helping others break free from shame. This episode addresses the real challenges of coming out, setting boundaries with family, and the courage it takes to live authentically in a world that often demands conformity. Jeffrey offers practical wisdom on moving from self-criticism to self-acceptance, why asking for what you need is essential for healthy relationships, and how their work helps people - especially parents - learn to support LGBTQ+ loved ones. Whether you're exploring your own identity, supporting someone in your life, or simply want to understand how to love yourself more fully, this conversation offers profound insights on breaking free from societal expectations and embracing your authentic self. Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here - https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of Sex with Emily, renowned psychiatrist and brain expert Dr. Daniel Amen joins us to explore how our "hidden dragons", the unconscious patterns from our past, are secretly controlling our happiness, relationships, and sex lives. Based on his latest book, "Your Brain is Always Listening," Dr. Amen reveals how childhood experiences, family trauma, and even ancestral patterns get written into our brains and show up in our intimate relationships. We dive deep into the most common dragons people face, including the anxious dragon, the abandoned and insignificant dragon, and the codependent dragon. Dr. Amen shares his personal journey with these patterns and explains how understanding your dragons can transform not just your mental health, but your sexual wellness too. We explore the connection between brain health and sexual function, why ADD can impact orgasms, and how negative thought patterns become "bad habits" that sabotage intimacy. This episode includes practical tools like positivity bias training, the power of rewriting your story, and specific breathing techniques that can reset your nervous system. Dr. Amen also addresses a listener's question about cheating addiction and explains how brain scans revealed the neurological patterns behind compulsive behavior. Whether you're struggling with commitment issues, sexual anxiety, or just want to understand how your brain affects your love life, this conversation offers both scientific insights and actionable strategies for creating healthier relationships. Show Notes: 00:00 - Introduction to Hidden Dragons 01:02 - Dr. Amen's Personal Dragon Story 04:40 - The Abandoned & Insignificant Dragon 08:26 - Most Common Dragons People Face 11:07 - The Ancestral Dragon & Epigenetics 14:18 - Rewriting Your Story & Focus 16:06 - Positivity Bias Training 19:07 - Happiness as Moral Obligation 21:22 - Brain Health & Sexual Function 24:02 - Building Better Mental Habits 27:59 - Listener Q&A: Cheating Addiction 35:12 - ADD & Relationships 38:20 - ADD & Female Orgasms 40:30 - Breathing Techniques for Regulation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Mistress Justine Cross, a professional dominatrix, educator, and owner of Dungeon East in Los Angeles, to demystify BDSM and power play. From breaking down what BDSM actually means to exploring how anyone can safely incorporate kink into their sex lives, Justine shares over a decade of experience helping people discover their desires without judgment. We dive deep into the realities of professional domination, debunking myths perpetuated by "50 Shades of Gray" and explaining why BDSM is far more psychological than physical. Justine walks us through the importance of consent, negotiation, and boundaries, revealing how these skills enhance not just kinky encounters but all intimate relationships. We explore everything from beginner-friendly activities to advanced practices like chastity training and post-orgasm torture. This episode addresses common concerns about introducing kink to partners, finding compatible people who share your interests, and the difference between healthy exploration and unhealthy dynamics. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, Justine provides practical advice for safe, consensual exploration while emphasizing that great kink—like great sex—is built on communication, trust, and mutual respect. Show Notes: 00:00 - Introduction to BDSM and Power Play 02:13 - Defining BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance & Submission 04:09 - Professional Domination: What Really Happens 07:10 - Debunking 50 Shades Myths 12:37 - The Omakase Approach: Exploring What You Like 16:01 - Orgasm Control and Chastity Training 18:16 - Communication: Talking to Partners About Kink 22:07 - BDSM 101: Starting Your Journey 25:32 - Creating Beautiful, Accessible Kink Spaces 30:06 - Ball Busting and Physical Play Safety 32:48 - Finding Your Dominant or Submissive Side This episode emphasizes that BDSM isn't about expensive equipment or extreme scenarios—it's about power exchange, communication, and exploring desires in a safe, consensual environment with partners who respect your boundaries. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this bonus episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily breaks down the top 10 red flags in bed that go beyond bad technique—these are the behaviors that can seriously impact your safety, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. From partners who never ask what you like to those who skip foreplay entirely, we explore the warning signs that indicate deeper issues around sexual awareness, communication, and respect. We dive into why these red flags matter, including partners who don't take feedback, make orgasm the only goal, ignore consent, lead with ego, and vanish emotionally after sex. Dr. Emily also addresses those who shame your fantasies, avoid sexual health conversations, and expect mind-reading instead of open communication. This isn't about shaming anyone—it's about recognizing patterns early so you can advocate for your needs and build healthier, more connected sexual experiences. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just want to know what to watch out for, this episode gives you the tools to identify red flags and prioritize partners who truly care about mutual pleasure and respect. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert, to tackle one of the most common relationship challenges: when sex starts feeling like just another item on your to-do list. From exploring why intimacy can lose its spark to practical strategies for reigniting desire, this conversation gets to the heart of what happens when pleasure becomes obligation. We dive deep into the psychology behind sexual disconnection, examining how stress, routine, and unspoken resentments can transform what should be joyful into something that feels burdensome. Dr. Scott shares insights on nervous system regulation and how our bodies respond when we're overwhelmed, while Dr. Emily offers practical advice on communication, scheduling intimacy, and the importance of prioritizing pleasure throughout the week—not just in the bedroom. This episode addresses the reality that many couples face: mismatched libidos, the pressure to perform, and the challenge of maintaining sexual connection amid life's demands. We explore how to shift from duty-based sex to desire-driven intimacy, the role of variety and spontaneity in long-term relationships, and why "priming for pleasure" throughout the week is essential for a fulfilling sex life. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - When Sex Becomes a Chore 03:00:00 - The Psychology of Sexual Obligation06:41:00 - Mismatched Libidos and Relationship Dynamics 08:26:00 - Breaking the Routine: Adding Variety and Play 11:07:00 - Communication vs. Avoidance in Sexual Relationships 15:38:00 - Priming for Pleasure Throughout the Week 18:06:00 - Scheduling Sex: Intentional vs. Spontaneous Intimacy 23:10:00 - From Duty to Desire: Practical Strategies 28:14:00 - Building Anticipation and Connection 30:04:00 - Redefining Sexual Success and Satisfaction Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner or just want to prevent sex from becoming routine, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable strategies for reclaiming the joy and connection that intimate relationships can provide. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this captivating episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily welcomes back adult film legend and author Joanna Angel to discuss her brilliant new choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel "Club 42." From her transformative days as a stripper to building a porn empire, Joanna shares how embracing her sexuality became the foundation of her confidence and success We dive into Joanna's fascinating journey of sexual self-discovery, exploring how stripping taught her to embrace her femininity, develop unshakeable confidence, and connect authentically with others. Her new book takes readers on multiple erotic adventures through a strip club setting, allowing you to choose your own path through various sexual scenarios—from hooking up with fellow dancers to exploring BDSM and everything in between. This episode is packed with practical advice on dirty talk, sexting, and vocal expression during intimacy. Joanna breaks down why authentic communication is crucial for great sex, how to move beyond performative sounds influenced by porn, and why being genuinely expressive enhances pleasure for everyone involved. We also explore her weakness for "band guys" and how sexual attraction doesn't always align with our feminist ideals. Key Topics Covered: How stripping transformed Joanna's confidence and sexuality The art of choose-your-own-adventure erotica Dirty talk vs. sexting: different skills for different situations Moving beyond porn-influenced sexual performance Why authentic vocalization enhances pleasure Sexual confidence and embracing your desires The psychology behind attraction to "bad boys" Creating inclusive, diverse sexual narratives Joanna's refreshing honesty about sexuality, combined with her literary talents, offers listeners both inspiration and practical tools for expanding their own sexual adventures. Whether you're looking to spice up your relationship or explore new fantasies, this episode celebrates the power of choice, authenticity, and unapologetic pleasure. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Joanna's journey from stripper to porn entrepreneur 08:00:00 - How stripping built unshakeable sexual confidence15:00:00 - "Club 42": Choose-your-own-adventure erotica 23:00:00 - The art of authentic dirty talk and sexting 31:00:00 - Moving beyond performative sexuality 38:00:00 - Listener questions and practical advice This episode reminds us that great sex starts with knowing yourself, embracing your desires, and having the confidence to ask for what you want—whether in the bedroom or on the page. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠ Let's get social: Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this essential bonus episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily tackles one of the most common and complicated questions in modern relationships: Does watching porn count as cheating? If you've ever felt that stomach-dropping moment when you discovered your partner's browser history, or wondered if your own porn consumption crosses a line, this episode is for you. Dr. Emily cuts straight through the confusion to reveal that there's no universal answer to this question—but if it's coming up in your relationship, there's something deeper worth exploring. The real issue isn't necessarily the porn itself, but whether this behavior is breaking trust and violating the agreements you've made with your partner. We explore why so many couples never discuss porn until someone gets hurt, how childhood conditioning around secrecy affects our adult relationships, and why the shame and silence surrounding porn often cause more damage than the porn itself. Dr. Emily also addresses when porn consumption can become genuinely problematic and offers practical guidance for having these crucial conversations. Key Topics Covered: Why there's no universal definition of cheating The difference between porn use and porn problems How secrecy and shame damage relationships more than porn Why many people never discuss boundaries until it's too late When porn consumption becomes genuinely concerning How to have honest conversations about digital boundaries Moving from assumptions to actual agreements This episode emphasizes that porn doesn't ruin relationships—it's the lack of communication, transparency, and mutual understanding that creates problems. Whether you're completely comfortable with porn or feel threatened by it, this episode provides the framework for having honest, productive conversations about digital intimacy boundaries. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - The moment of discovery: When porn feels like betrayal 01:30:00 - Why there's no universal answer to "Is it cheating?" 03:00:00 - The real issue: Trust and agreements vs. assumptions 04:30:00 - When porn becomes genuinely problematic 05:30:00 - How to start the conversation about boundaries Remember: Communication is always sexier than making assumptions and making your partner wrong. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠Let's get social: Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this essential episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Dr. Ina Park, associate professor at UCSF School of Medicine and author of "Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs." From her early days as a peer educator dressed as a giant condom at UC Berkeley to becoming a leading expert in sexual health, Dr. Park brings both humor and expertise to one of the most stigmatized topics in sexual wellness. We dive deep into the myths and realities surrounding STIs, exploring why HPV is truly "the common cold of the genitals" that nearly everyone will encounter, how herpes stigma far outweighs its actual health impact, and why people who know their status are actually safer partners than those who don't. Dr. Park shares fascinating insights about everything from The Bachelor's problematic STI testing to the connection between pubic hair grooming and infection risk. This conversation tackles the shame and fear that keep us from having honest discussions about sexual health, while providing practical advice on testing, disclosure, and maintaining healthy relationships regardless of STI status. We also explore the vaginal microbiome, why some people are more susceptible to infections, and promising new treatments on the horizon. Key Topics Covered: HPV: Why it's unavoidable and how to think about it differently Herpes disclosure and reducing transmission risk The truth about oral sex and STI transmission Pubic hair, Brazilian waxes, and infection risk Vaginal health and the microbiome Why knowing your status makes you a safer partner Breaking down STI stigma and shame Dr. Park's refreshing approach reminds us that STIs are simply part of being sexually active humans, and that knowledge, communication, and compassion are our best tools for sexual wellness. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Dr. Park's journey from condom costume to STI expert 07:00:00 - HPV: The common cold of the genitals 14:00:00 - Herpes myths, realities, and disclosure strategies 22:00:00 - Oral sex and STI transmission risks 26:00:00 - Pubic hair grooming and infection risk 31:00:00 - Vaginal microbiome and bacterial balance 36:00:00 - Listener Q&A: Real STI concerns answered 42:00:00 - Breaking stigma and having better conversations This episode emphasizes that sexual health is part of overall wellness, and that honest, shame-free conversations about STIs can transform how we approach intimate relationships. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠ Let's get social: Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this throwback episode, Gwyneth Paltrow joins Dr. Emily to discuss her groundbreaking series "Sex, Love & Goop" and why she's passionate about normalizing conversations around sexual wellness. From her journey as a Gen X woman navigating shame around female pleasure to creating beautifully designed vibrators that challenge stigma, Gwyneth opens up about the evolution of her own sexuality and the importance of sexual wellness as a pillar of overall health. We explore how sexual intimacy serves as a microcosm for all our relationships, why accountability and communication are essential for fulfilling partnerships, and how Gwyneth's current marriage has allowed her to experience a new level of sexual freedom in her late forties. The conversation delves into the performative nature of sexuality many women experience, the challenge of asking for what we want, and how non-judgmental partners can create space for authentic sexual expression. Gwyneth also shares insights about perimenopause and menopause, advocating for rebranding this life stage as an exciting gateway rather than an ending. She discusses her wellness journey, including how gut health has impacted her hormone balance, and reveals her hopes that her show will inspire couples to have vulnerable conversations that deepen their intimate connections. Key Topics Covered: Breaking cultural shame around female sexual pleasure The importance of sexual wellness in overall health Creating sex-positive products and conversations Navigating sexuality through different life stages Communication and vulnerability in intimate relationships Menopause as a gateway to deeper sexuality The connection between gut health and hormones This episode emphasizes that sexual wellness deserves the same attention as other aspects of health, and that honest conversations about pleasure and intimacy can transform relationships at any age. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Netflix series and sexual healing exploration 07:00:00 - Gen X sexuality and cultural shame 14:00:00 - Creating beautiful, stigma-free sex products 21:00:00 - Evolution of personal sexuality and partnerships 28:00:00 - Menopause rebranding and sexual evolution 35:00:00 - Wellness, gut health, and hormone balance 42:00:00 - Quick-fire questions and final thoughts Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this intimate episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and body-based trauma expert, to explore how vocalizing pleasure can transform your intimate experiences. From a candid discussion about their couples massage experience in Vegas to practical advice on overcoming sexual silence, this episode reveals why making authentic sounds during sex creates deeper connection and more intense pleasure. We dive into the psychology behind sexual silence, examining how childhood conditioning, shame, and societal expectations keep us quiet when we should be expressing ourselves. Dr. Scott explains the nervous system science behind vocalization, including how making sounds stimulates the vagus nerve and helps regulate our bodies during intimate moments. We also tackle the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and performative moaning influenced by porn culture. This episode addresses common concerns like being too loud with roommates or kids in the house, offers practical exercises for gradually increasing your vocal expression, and explores how sound creates crucial feedback loops between partners. Whether you're naturally quiet or overly performative, you'll learn how to find your authentic voice of pleasure. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - The Vegas Massage Story: Learning from Authentic Sound 03:00:00 - Why We Stay Silent During Pleasure 06:41:00 - Men, Masturbation & the Culture of Quiet Sex 08:26:00 - Sound as Nervous System Regulation 11:07:00 - Authentic vs. Performative Vocalization 15:38:00 - The Sixth Limb: Your Voice as Extension of Your Body 18:06:00 - Shame, Control & Sexual Expression 23:10:00 - Practical Exercises: Touch for Pleasure Practice 28:14:00 - Sensory Play & Exploration 30:04:00 - Parents, Kids & Sexual Noise Concerns 33:08:00 - The 10% Challenge: Starting Small Join Dr. Emily and Dr. Scott as they share personal insights and professional expertise on breaking through sexual silence to unlock deeper pleasure and connection. This episode includes a live demonstration and practical homework to help you discover your authentic voice of pleasure. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily debunks five pervasive sex myths that may be holding you back from experiencing your best intimate life. From the "body count" obsession to orgasm pressure, we explore why these common beliefs are not only wrong but potentially harmful to your sexual confidence and relationships. We dive deep into why the number of sexual partners doesn't determine your skill as a lover, the truth about natural lubrication and arousal, and how focusing solely on orgasms can actually prevent you from having them. Dr. Emily also addresses vibrator myths, explaining why sex toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and breaks down outdated beliefs about anal play that keep people from exploring new dimensions of pleasure. Featuring listener questions from Francesca, Josh, Taylor, Melissa, and Nicole, this episode provides practical advice for navigating sexual insecurities, communication with partners, and expanding your intimate repertoire. Whether you're dealing with dryness, struggling to reach climax, or curious about introducing new elements to your sex life, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - The Body Count Myth 08:00:00 - Quality vs. Quantity in Sexual Experience 11:30:00 - The Lube Myth & Natural Lubrication 17:25:00 - Orgasm Pressure & Pleasure Focus 23:17:00 - Vibrator Addiction Myths 29:57:00 - Anal Play Misconceptions 33:02:00 - Listener Q&A: Building Sexual Confidence This episode emphasizes that great sex is about communication, presence, and understanding your own body—not conforming to arbitrary standards or myths that create unnecessary pressure and shame.

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia 00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety 04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma 07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics 10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory 13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment 15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics 17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility 20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners 22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships. Timestamps: 00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions 00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication 06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks 09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs 15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive 18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues 21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life 24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues 29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex 44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy 55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text https://sexwithemily.com/the-ultimate-gui…aving-better-sex/

In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life. #love #relationship #divorce Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Relationship Success & Gottman Institute 03:14 - Couple's Coffee Shop Love Story 06:33 - Predicting Relationship Success/Failure 10:03 - Four Horsemen of Apocalypse 17:03 - Relationship Workshops & Education 20:22 - Post-Baby Relationships 23:50 - Relationship Challenges & Communication 27:25 - Deepening Relationships Through Dates 30:23 - Rediscovering Shared Dreams & Values 46:33 - Factors in a Great Sex Life 1:00:00 - Prioritizing Relationships & Intimacy Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/the-science-of-l…-prevent-divorce/

In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure. Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure. Timestamps: 00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure 00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity 10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping 14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration 20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug 23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice 32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release 43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing 46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential 01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text