We Can Do Hard Things

351. How to Have *Healthy* Conflict with Amanda Ripley Conflict expert and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is back to give us a conflict resolution 101 guide and delve into some real-life examples from Abby and Glennon’s relationship. Discover: -The best way to diffuse a high-conflict person from going further; -The binary thinking that makes fighting with a spouse feel so painful–plus, the antidote; -How to disagree while still holding someone else’s perspective; and -Why it’s important to know your shame responses in order to have better conflicts. For the first part of our conversation, check out ⁠Episode 330 Handling Conflict Right with Amanda Ripley⁠. About Amanda: Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and author. Her most recent book is ⁠High Conflict⁠, which chronicles how people get trapped by conflicts of all kinds—and how they get out. Her previous books include The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film. IG: ⁠@ripleywriter⁠ ⁠@thegoodconflict To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

437. LISTEN TO SAVE PALESTINIAN LIVES w/ Our Friend Dr. Thaer Ahmad This is one of the most important conversations we’ve ever had. Please listen to today’s episode and donate here: https://bit.ly/HealthcareinGaza Our friend Dr. Ahmad is a Palestinian-American emergency medical physician and voice for Palestinian dignity who has provided medical relief in the world’s most devastated conflict zones, including in Gaza during the bombardments. 1. Every penny of our proceeds from this episode is going to the Palestinian American Medical Association, a 501(c)(3) tax exempt nonprofit organization providing Dr. Ahmad and his brave colleagues the supplies they need to keep healing and saving Palestinian lives. 2. ALSO, POD SQUAD: IF YOU HAVE ANY DOLLARS TO SPARE, PLEASE GIVE DIRECTLY TO THIS LIFESAVING FUND at https://bit.ly/HealthcareinGaza 3. Glennon is personally matching every dollar you give up to $100,000. These brave medical professionals — all of whom are risking their lives to provide relief, care and healing to the children, men, and women of Palestine — do not have the supplies they desperately need to save lives. We are not helpless in the face of these horrors. Please let us be the ones who say with our voices and money: WE SEE YOU. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. WE WILL SHARE WITH YOU WHAT WE HAVE SO YOU CAN CONTINUE TO HEAL YOUR PEOPLE. Follow: @thaerahmad @palestinianama To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

436. Are You a Dopamine Addict? | Dr. Anna Lembke Dr. Anna Lembke, the Medical Director of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Program, join us to discuss why common fixes for feeling better are actually making us feel worse. Dr. Lembke explains the science behind the brain's pleasure and pain processing and the dopamine balance. -The four C’s of dopamine addiction and whether you have one -How to begin to detox from dopamine addiction -The surprising reason you might want to spend an entire day looking forward to nothing Anna Lembke is the medical director of Stanford Addiction Medicine, program director for the Stanford Addiction Medicine Fellowship, and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. She is the recipient of numerous awards for outstanding research in mental illness, for excellence in teaching, and for clinical innovation in treatment. She sits on the board of several state and national addiction-focused organizations, has testified before various committees in the United States House of Representatives and Senate, keeps an active speaking calendar, and maintains a thriving clinical practice. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today’s beautiful, vulnerable, and funny conversation, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda reveal what each feels most insecure about. Plus, Amanda connects with a member of the Pod Squad on raising a kid with ADHD and her shift that changed everything; Glennon talks about anger as a guard dog and her discovery while rock climbing on “vacation”; and Abby explains why retirement from soccer was one of the hardest times of her life and how she navigated that massive life transition. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

435. Testing Abby: How Well Does She Really Know Glennon? Amanda puts Abby in the hot seat to find out how well she knows Glennon. Find out who WINS and how you can start to use these questions to get to know your people better. Listen to Part 1 here: 434. The Not-So-Newlywed Game with Glennon & Abby: Who Wins? List of Date Qs: 1. What’s your favorite room in your house? 2. Which one of you is most likely to initiate a home improvement project? 3. What is your favorite family tradition? 4. Other than anything related to the kids, what is your proudest achievement? 5. What’s a challenge you’ve overcome as a couple? 6. Who is more likely to burst out laughing at inappropriate times? 7. Who is more likely to forget important dates? 8. What is something you are always right about? 9. What is something you are seldom right about? 10. Who is the better budget keeper? 11. What is a funny habit about your partner that makes you smile? 12 When you’re in the car, who controls the radio? 13. If your partner could have a superpower what would it be? 14. If your partner were an animal, what would she be? 15. What is your partner’s hidden talent? 16. Who said I love you first? 17. How do you decide what to have for dinner? 18. What phrase does your partner use too often? 19. What would your partner say are her best personality characteristics? 20. Who is your partner’s hero? 21. Which one of you is better at self-care? 22. What story does your partner tell over and over? To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

434. The Not-So-Newlywed Game with Glennon & Abby: Who Wins? Amanda gets to live out her life-long dream of being a game show host and Glennon and Abby are put to the test! How well DO these two lovebirds really know each other? Listen to part one and find out! This time Glennon’s in the hot seat. Come back for part two to see how Abby does! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Singer, songwriter, and instrumentalist, Allison Russell, shares her incredible life story and teaches us how she healed from abuse through music, sisterhood, and returning to her body. This hour is a soul-stirring reminder of the life-saving, cycle-breaking power of truth telling, art, and love. About Allison: Allison Russell has spent her career in multiple bands, including Po’ Girl, Our Native Daughters and Birds of Chicago. After a career spent as a gifted multi-instrumentalist, backing numerous other artists, she finally dared to release her solo project in 2021. She made her Opry debut and appeared at the Country Music Hall of Fame and performed at the 2022 GRAMMY’s Premiere Ceremony. In addition to her four GRAMMY nominations, she has earned three 2022 Americana Award nominations and a win for Album of the Year, two International Folk Music Award wins, a 2022 Juno nomination for ‘Songwriter of the Year,’ and her first-ever Juno Award win for Contemporary Roots Album of the Year. Russell received two 2021 Americana Awards nominations, won three Canadian Folk Music Awards, two UK Americana Music Awards, and more. She was recently nominated for Song of the Year and Artist of the Year for the 2023 Americana Awards. TW: ⁠@outsidechild13⁠ IG: ⁠@allisonrussellmusic To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

433. How to Parent While You Heal: Live on Tour In today’s episode, we share more from our first-ever live tour where we gathered with thousands of you to celebrate our Indie and New York Times Bestselling book, We Can Do Hard Things. We talk about internalized sexism, what to do when you don’t have a village, how to parent while you’re still healing, how to stay rooted in love in the face of fear–and why friendship might be the most important survival tool we have. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

432. Bad with Money? Get Better with Tori Dunlap Glennon, Abby, and Amanda are doing something they've never done—talk about money. It's one of the most vulnerable topics, especially for women, where silence and shame still dominate. Joining them is Tori Dunlap—New York Times bestselling author and feminist finance expert—to help break the stigma, spark the conversation, and guide us toward financial freedom. -How shame—not numbers—is often the biggest barrier to financial well-being-Why women are conditioned to shrink around money and how to reclaim power-Using money as a tool for safety, agency, and freedom-Practical steps to begin healing your relationship with money, starting today Tori Dunlap is the Author of the instant New York Times bestselling book “Financial Feminist”; host of the #1 Business Podcast, Financial Feminist; and co-creator of Treasury, an investing education platform that has over $82M invested. After saving $100,000 at age 25, Tori quit her corporate job in marketing and founded Her First $100K to fight financial inequality by giving women actionable resources to better their money. She has helped over five million women negotiate salary, pay off debt, build savings, and invest. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

432. Bad with Money? Get Better with Tori Dunlap Glennon, Abby, and Amanda are doing something they've never done—talk about money. It's one of the most vulnerable topics, especially for women, where silence and shame still dominate. Joining them is Tori Dunlap—New York Times bestselling author and feminist finance expert—to help break the stigma, spark the conversation, and guide us toward financial freedom. -How shame—not numbers—is often the biggest barrier to financial well-being-Why women are conditioned to shrink around money and how to reclaim power-Using money as a tool for safety, agency, and freedom-Practical steps to begin healing your relationship with money, starting today Tori Dunlap is the Author of the instant New York Times bestselling book “Financial Feminist”; host of the #1 Business Podcast, Financial Feminist; and co-creator of Treasury, an investing education platform that has over $82M invested. After saving $100,000 at age 25, Tori quit her corporate job in marketing and founded Her First $100K to fight financial inequality by giving women actionable resources to better their money. She has helped over five million women negotiate salary, pay off debt, build savings, and invest. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1. Why the construct of beauty is oppressive, but the essence of beauty is freedom. 2. What living with integrity looks like. 3. Why Dr. Blay doesn’t need any more allies—and what she really wants from an accomplice. 4. How “Karens” have been around for centuries—and the direct line from “Miss Anne to Karen.” 5. Dr. Blay’s greatest hope for her granddaughters—even if she doesn’t like it. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

431. How to Let Go of “Not Enough” with Melissa Arnot Reid Melissa Arnot Reid—the first American woman to summit Everest without supplemental oxygen—opens up about her journey from a difficult childhood to discovering true self-worth, revealing how even the highest peaks can’t quiet the voice of unworthiness within. -Why Everest became Melissa’s classroom, not her accomplishment-How imagining her own funeral saved Melissa’s life -How Melissa’s shift from “I’ve done enough” to “I am enough” changed everything. -Why Glennon completely relates to Melissa’s story of scaling Everest Melissa Arnot Reid is the first American woman to summit Everest without supplemental oxygen. It was her sixth summit of the highest ground on earth, cementing her place in mountaineering history. In doing so, she became a media star, in demand from many publications, television shows, and organizations looking for inspirational speakers. She continues to work as a mountain guide as well as running The Juniper Fund, the non-profit she co-founded. Her new book, ENOUGH: Climbing Toward a True Self on Mount Everest, is available now. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

430. The Trick to Finally Becoming an Adult Glennon, Abby, and Amanda revisit the six family roles, uncover which ones they've each lived out, and share how they're working to heal and grow beyond them. -How shifting some of their family roles is shifting Glennon and Amanda’s personal dynamic; -The schism rejecting a family role can create; -Why apologies you get from your family of origin might not be resonating; and -How Glennon stopped thinking she was born ‘broken’ and how you can, too. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

1. The question Carson’s sister asked that made him radically reimagine his life. 2. Why Carson is having the best sex of his life. 3. How Carson received sign-off from his Mormon Bishop for his first queer date. 4. The accident that left Carson paralyzed from the chest down at 23. 5. How ableism hurts us all. About Carson: Carson Tueller is a coach, speaker and activist whose work provides people with the tools they need to live authentic, fulfilling, and powerful lives. He identifies as queer and disabled. Carson grew up as a Mormon in a military family moving around a lot before settling in Utah. His own journey into powerful living began in 2013 when, in the same year, he came out, and was then injured in an accident that paralyzed him from the chest down. Since then, Carson has brought his work to international nonprofits and presidential campaigns – and when he isn’t coaching or speaking, Carson can be found at the gym, reading non-fiction, or playing Pokemon with his niece and nephews. TW: ⁠@carson_tueller⁠ IG: ⁠@carson_tueller⁠ #disabilitypride #disabilitypridemonth To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're excited to bring you a beautiful story from The Moth, as told by storyteller and activist, Tiq Milan. In this story, Tiq explores themes of love and transition, all while keeping a very important secret from his mom. You can hear the extended version of this story and more heartwarming, funny, true stories on Tuesdays and Fridays on The Moth podcast. Since its launch in 1997, The Moth has presented thousands of true stories, told live and without notes, to standing-room-only crowds worldwide. Moth storytellers stand alone, under a spotlight, with only a microphone and a roomful of strangers. The storyteller and the audience embark on a high-wire act of shared experience which is both terrifying and exhilarating. Since 2008, The Moth podcast has featured many of our favorite stories told live on Moth stages around the country. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

429. On Not Being Chosen, Re-Parenting Yourself & Getting Started | Live on Tour! In this special episode, we share moments from an unforgettable night in Portland on our first-ever live tour. We gathered with thousands of you to celebrate our Indie and New York Times Bestselling book, We Can Do Hard Things. We talk about the ache of not being chosen, the grief of lost teams and families, the power of self-parenting, the fear of starting something you may not finish, and the courage to lead hard conversations in your own circles.This tour has been about connection, community, and staying human—and we’re so grateful you’re part of it. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

428. Family Roles: Which Part Did YOU Play? Amanda, Abby, and Glennon take a close look at the roles we’re assigned—or take on—within our families of origin. They unpack how these childhood roles stick with us, shape who we become, and continue to influence our relationships and choices long into adulthood. -The six different types of family roles and how to identify yours; -The gifts and pitfalls of each role; and -The signs of an unhealthy family system. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amanda shares the one proven way to get the truth from someone – plus: Why Glennon calls her lying style “The Puppeteer” – and why you’ll never know what Amanda’s really feeling. Amanda defends our right to lie, and debunks myths about how we can tell if someone is lying. What’s the difference between lying and controlling, manipulating, and filtering the truth? Glennon’s fear of judgment from the next generation, and How to foster real connection in a world where lying is normal. For the first part of our conversation, check out ⁠242. We’re All Liars: What’s Your Lying Style?⁠. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

427. Is Work Stress Sabotaging Your Relationships? | Dr. Alexandra Solomon Renowned relationship expert, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, returns to help us navigate one of the most common—and least talked about—sources of relationship tension: our careers. From ambition clashes and invisible labor to money resentment and the stress we carry home, Dr. Solomon helps us understand how our work lives can deeply affect our love lives. -The most common work-related conflicts couples face—and how to navigate them-What happens when ambition in one partner sparks resentment in the other-How invisible labor and internalized gender roles impact equality and pride in the home-How to preserve intimacy when you're constantly together (or apart)-Why work stress doesn’t stay at work—and how to keep it from wrecking your relationship Resources from Dr. Solomon for the Pod Squad related to our conversations: dralexandrasolomon.com/hardthings. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A licensed clinical psychologist in private practice, couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is the host of the Reimagining Love Podcast and author of Love Every Day, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

426. Why Protest Works—The 3.5% Rule with Erica Chenoweth Harvard professor and leading expert on political resistance, Erica Chenoweth, joins us to answer a critical question: Is the United States still a democracy, or have we already slipped into authoritarianism? Professor Chenoweth lays out where we stand—and shares a powerful, evidence-based strategy for reclaiming our collective power while we still can. -The warning signs of democratic decline—and how they’re unfolding in America right now -How just 3.5% of the population can spark unstoppable, long-term change -Why nonviolent resistance works—and why it’s our most underused superpower -What it really means to defect—and how to reclaim power from authoritarian forces Erica Chenoweth is professor at Harvard University who studies political violence and its alternatives. Erica directs the Nonviolent Action Lab, an innovation hub that provides empirical evidence in support of movement-led political transformation. Erica has authored nine books including, with Maria Stephen, Why Civil Resistance Works and Civil Resistance: What Everyone Needs to Know. Erica maintains the NAVCO Data Project, one of the world’s leading datasets on historical and contemporary mass mobilizations around the globe. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices