Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

A year ago today, Justin and I got kicked off a flight, and what could have been a total meltdown moment turned into one of the biggest relationship lessons of my life. Over pints in the Amsterdam airport, I realized I’d been carrying the same fear in new clothing and it was quietly robbing me of experiencing the love I already had in my relationship. In this episode, I share the full story and the mind-shattering epiphany that cracked me open: why trying to control your partner’s future resentment (or cheating, or rejection) only keeps you stuck, and how softening, trusting, and letting yourself be supported can actually transform your relationship. This episode is for you if: * You find yourself bracing for impact instead of enjoying the present. * Money, resentment, or “what if” fears creep into your love life. * You tend to control, fix, or over-function to feel safe. * You’re ready to experience what happens when you stop gripping and let yourself be held. This isn’t just a travel story, it’s how you can stop letting fear control your relationship and finally feel the safety and joy you’ve been craving. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you ever wonder why you still feel triggered, even in a healthy relationship? In this live episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share what I’ve been navigating with my partner around boundaries, conflict, and the uncomfortable truth that our partners can’t always meet us the way we want. We explore what to do when one person needs space and the other wants resolution now, why codependency pulls us toward fawning, and how to use inner child healing to find safety in yourself instead of demanding it from someone else. This episode is for you if: * You feel activated even in a good relationship and don’t know why. * You and your partner want opposite things in conflict (space vs. talk now). * You tend to shut down, over-explain, or fawn to avoid tension. * You’re ready to learn practices that bring compassion and clarity to your triggers. I wish someone would have told me that triggers aren’t proof your relationship is broken, but that they’re invitations. Every time you’re activated, your nervous system is pointing to an old story: I’m not safe, I’m not loved, I’m on my own. What if instead of demanding your partner to fix it, we asked ourselves: what part of me is being reactivated, and how can I meet that need myself? The moment you start giving yourself the safety, love, or validation you’re seeking, your triggers shift from enemies to guides. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Are you in the middle of heartbreak, doubting yourself, or terrified of being “too much” for others? In this intimate session episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide a member through shadow work and inner child healing as she moves through fresh breakup grief, religious trauma, and the fear of disappointing others. Together, we uncover how old wounds show up in relationships, how to set boundaries with compassion, and how to finally choose yourself without shame. This episode is for you if: * You feel guilty for disappointing others or setting boundaries. * You’re in the messy middle of heartbreak or a major transition. * You often self-abandon to keep the peace or stay connected. * You’re ready to connect with your inner child and hear her wisdom. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Are you tired of sharing your feelings only to be met with blame-shifting, minimization, or deflection? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I break down what’s really happening when your partner won’t hear you and how to stop silencing yourself just to keep the peace. We’ll explore why invalidation feels so triggering, the role of self-abandonment, and the four key steps to shift the dynamic: self-validation, boundary-setting, preparing for pushback, and discerning if your partner is willing to grow with you. This episode is for you if: * You leave conversations feeling unseen or “too much.” * Your partner often shifts blame, keeps score, or minimizes your feelings. * You find yourself over-explaining, caretaking, or shutting down to avoid conflict. * You’re ready to stop self-abandoning and start honoring your boundaries. When someone resists your boundary, it doesn’t mean you’re asking for too much— it means the dynamic is shifting. Their pushback is information, not evidence that you’re wrong. Think of it like closing a drive-thru window they’ve relied on for years: of course they’ll get upset at first. But holding firm invites them into growth, while abandoning yourself only keeps the cycle alive. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Please listen to this episode with care, and caution. It may be triggering for people who experienced sexual abuse and trauma. I trust and honor your autonomy. This is the final episode in my four-part Camino series— and it’s the one that scared me the most to record, not because of the conversation with my dad, but because a lot of people don’t understand our relationship. In this conversation with my dad, we talk about what it looked like to repair after rupture, and why silence was no longer an option for us. As a family, we’ve been doing the work to stop cycles of trauma, especially around sexual abuse. And that meant we had to name what happened. We had to face the pain, the responsibility, and the fear… together. This episode is about what real accountability looks like— and how it can open the door to connection instead of cutting it off. We talk about the healing that became possible once my dad stopped avoiding and started taking ownership, and how that gave me, and all of us, something to rebuild from. If you come from a family that avoids hard conversations, or if you’ve ever wondered whether healing is possible after deep hurt— this episode is proof that it’s not easy, but it is possible. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This is part three of my four-part Camino series — and I’m not going to lie: this was the hardest conversation I’ve ever had in my life. In this episode, I sit down with my mom to talk about the moment on the Camino when I finally told her the truth— the truth about how her choices impacted me, how much I’d been holding in, and how often I’d protected her feelings instead of honoring my own. It was uncomfortable, vulnerable, and deeply emotional… but it was also the beginning of something new between us. We talk about the roles we both played: her as the peacekeeper, trying to hold our family together at all costs— and me as the one who jumped into caretaking and making myself small to keep things “calm.” And what happened when we finally stopped managing each other’s emotions and started speaking honestly. If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the emotional weight of your family, or that your healing depends on staying silent— I hope this episode cracks something open in you the way it did for me. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This is part two of my four-part Camino series— where I’m sitting down with the people I love most to talk about the moments that changed everything. In this episode, I’m joined by my brother to talk about a pattern we didn’t even realize we were stuck in for years: me always trying to help, support, and take care of him… and how this codependent dynamic was negatively impacting our relationship. I share what it was like to realize that my need to feel needed was actually getting in the way of him building confidence and self-trust— and he shares what it felt like to grow up on the receiving end of that dynamic. This conversation is honest and tender. It’s about the unspoken roles we take on in families and what happens when we decide to lay them down. We talk about how we’re rebuilding trust, choosing new ways of relating, and learning how to see each other as the full humans we are now— not just who we were growing up. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it all together for a sibling— or are trying to unlearn patterns that kept you “connected” but not close… this one’s for you. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Nine years ago, I walked the Camino de Santiago— thinking I was just going on an adventure with my little brother. But what I found on that path was something I didn’t expect: the truth about the role I was playing in my family’s pain. This is the first episode in a special 4-part series where I’m sharing the moments that changed my life and my relationships forever. In this one, I talk about three turning points on the Camino: one with my brother, one with my mom, and one with my dad. Moments where I realized that all my fixing, caretaking, and trying to keep the peace wasn’t helping... it was actually holding us back from the deeper healing we all needed. I share what happened, what it brought up in me, and how choosing honesty over harmony shifted the dynamic of our entire family. If you’ve ever felt responsible for everyone else’s emotions or found yourself avoiding the truth to keep others comfortable, I hope this episode lands in your heart. This is a story about forgiveness, accountability, and learning to tell the truth — not to hurt, but to heal. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

What do you do when your partner says something in a fight that really hurts? In this episode, I respond to a Codependency Alchemy member who felt deeply disrespected during an argument with their partner and doesn’t know what to do next. They didn’t want to shut down, fight back, or threaten the relationship… but they also knew they deserved more care and respect. We talk about: * How to respond when you feel disrespected or hurt * Why walking away isn’t weak— it’s a boundary * When you're ready for repair, and how to know * Questions to ask when you're ready to reconnect * How to avoid falling back into old, reactive patterns This is a conversation about repair, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming your voice, even when the moment feels messy. If this episode resonated, take a second to like this post, rate, review, or share it with someone who might need it too. It really helps more people find this work. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you feel guilty or afraid to say no—even when your body says you’re at capacity? In this episode I guide Hannah through healing the fear that setting boundaries might lead to rejection or losing the connections and community she’s built and grown for herself. Together we explore how people-pleasing patterns stem from the mother wound, and how to reconnect with the inner child who learned it was safer to be needed than to be authentic. A powerful episode for anyone who wants to stop spiraling after saying no and start honoring their truth with compassion. This episode is for you if: * You overthink how others might respond when you set a boundary * You’ve ever felt like you had to be “useful” or “helpful” to be loved * You find yourself saying yes when your body’s screaming no * You’re ready to stop spiraling in shame after choosing yourself 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, something still keeps you stuck? In this episode, we’re exploring the hidden blocks that sabotage your growth, steal your peace, and keep you spinning in old patterns—even when you’re trying so hard to move forward. I’ll walk you through 3 powerful questions that will help you identify what’s really in the way, where it came from, and how to gently start shifting it. This episode is for you if: You feel stuck or blocked despite all the inner work you’ve done You struggle to let go of control, even when it’s safe to do so You carry guilt when things feel easeful or good You’re ready to reconnect with the part of you that knows how to flow **Want to join our next Podcast Live event? Make sure you become a free subscriber on our Codependency Alchemy Substack here. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you ever spiral over whether you’re making the “right” choice in your relationship? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide Julie—a brave member of our membership community—through a powerful healing session exploring the fear of choosing wrong in love. Together, we unpack the inner conflict between her craving for connection and her fear of repeating painful patterns. Through shadow work and inner child healing, we explore the deeper wounds underneath indecision, and how to start trusting yourself—even when the future feels uncertain. This episode is for you if: You constantly second-guess your relationship decisions You struggle to hear your intuition through the noise of fear and trauma You’re scared to leave… but also scared to stay You want tools to help you discern truth from self-protection🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here Other resources noted in this episode: Healing the Mother Wound- 30 day journey Muscle testing- learn how to trust you inner knowing/compass This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Are you tired of doing all the work in your relationship—or wondering why healing still feels so triggering, even with a good partner? In this raw and honest episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share the eight biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 30s that completely transformed how I show up in love. From fixating on my partner’s healing journey to weaponizing my love language, to learning how to hold two truths without needing to be “right”—this episode is packed with the hard-earned wisdom I wish I had a decade ago. Whether you’re in a relationship or healing after one, these lessons will meet you exactly where you are. This episode is for you if: * You keep trying to “fix” your partner instead of tending to yourself. * You’re struggling with space, boundaries, or unmet needs. * You want to stop reacting from fear and start responding with clarity. * You’re ready to take accountability without shame. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here Other resources noted in this episode: The Breakup That Healed Me Episode The Situationship Episode Needs, Wants, and Desires Episode This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you feel physically pulled back into relationships you know aren’t healthy, even when you’re committed to healing? In today’s powerful episode, I guide Sarah—a member of the Codependency Alchemy community—through shadow work and inner child healing to uncover why her nervous system feels addicted to chaotic relationships. We explore the hidden reasons behind why we chase unhealthy connections, what happens when our nervous system mistakes chaos for safety, and how dopamine addiction keeps us stuck. Sarah bravely reconnects with her younger self, healing deep childhood wounds and reclaiming her power. Listen in to learn practical tools to support your nervous system and break free from patterns that no longer serve you. This episode is for you if: * You struggle to let go of relationships that you logically know aren't healthy. * Your nervous system craves chaos or emotional unavailability. * You experience physical anxiety or panic when relationships end. * You want guidance on healing relationship-related nervous system triggers. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here Other resources noted from this episode: Power Animal Journey Testimonial: How shadow work and inner child healing changed her life This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your family—or find yourself triggered when those boundaries get ignored? In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of setting and enforcing a boundary with my grandma, and the powerful process of repairing after a rupture. You'll learn why boundaries aren't about controlling others but taking responsibility for our own emotional safety, and how making repairs after conflicts fosters genuine healing. Plus, we'll do a live shadow work practice together to help you understand your fears around boundary-setting and heal the root causes beneath them. This episode is for you if: * You find it hardest to set boundaries with family. * You feel unheard, invalidated, or triggered when boundaries are ignored. * You're unsure how to make genuine repairs after a conflict. * You want practical ways to support your nervous system when triggered. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here Other resources noted from this episode: Power Animal Journey Why boundaries feel hard & how to set them lovingly This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you hold yourself and your partner to unrealistic expectations, believing healthy relationships should never feel triggering or difficult? In this intimate session, I guide a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, through shadow work and inner child healing to explore her anxieties around relationship triggers, unmet expectations, and fears of being alone. We uncover the root causes behind her self-judgment and the pressure she places on her partner, transforming these fears into deeper self-compassion and self-acceptance. Listen in and learn how to embrace relationship triggers as opportunities for growth, understand the cycle of anxiety and judgment, and build true emotional safety from within. This episode is for you if: * You feel anxious when your partner isn't "doing the work." * You struggle with unrealistic expectations about relationships. * You frequently judge yourself harshly for getting triggered. * You're ready to release old fears and reconnect with your inner child. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you struggle to set boundaries—or feel defeated when they're ignored? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I dive deep into the true meaning of setting boundaries, breaking common misconceptions, and offering a practical three-step framework you can start using immediately. Through relatable stories from my own life and our community, we'll explore how boundary-setting can initially feel uncomfortable but ultimately creates more authentic, fulfilling, and respectful relationships. If you're tired of feeling anxious about enforcing boundaries or resentful when they aren't respected, this episode is exactly what you need. This episode is for you if: * You feel anxious or guilty when setting boundaries. * You've struggled with boundaries being ignored or disrespected. * You're ready to move past people-pleasing into empowered action. * You need clear steps on how to enforce boundaries effectively. 🌟 Special Podcast Listener Offer: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ Click here to claim your discount and join now! 💬 Get Community Support: Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → Join the chat ✨ Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ Download my FREE guide 🎥 Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → Exclusive Masterclass Library ✍🏾 From My Journal: Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ Read my latest journal entries 💎 Explore "The Gems": Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → Get your free resources here This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever wondered why you keep getting triggered by the same things — even after all the journaling and self-awareness? In this episode, I share the simple guided practice that’s helped me (and hundreds of clients) begin to truly heal codependency using shadow work, somatics, and inner child healing. You’ll learn how to meet core wounds with compassion, curiosity, and presence. We’ll walk through: * How to identify the root fear behind a trigger * Why somatic awareness is key to inner child healing * How to connect with your inner child (even if no memories come up) * What it really means to reparent and set your inner child free Want to go deeper? Join Codependency Alchemy, our Substack membership for access to the Healing the Mother Wound 30-day journey — with daily prompts, poems, and guided practices, all for just $4.95 this May. We start tomorrow: just click here to join. Want a step-by-step version of this practice? Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide Watch Masterclasses from our Membership Library Read posts From My Journal ✍🏾 Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you carry guilt from past self-abandonment or struggle deeply to forgive yourself for not holding boundaries?In this heartfelt episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide a member from our membership— who's been on her recovery journey for over two decades—through shadow work and inner child healing. Together, we explore her patterns of people-pleasing, self-harm, and difficulty setting boundaries, uncovering her underlying fears of abandonment and loneliness. We get to witness her reconnect deeply with her inner child and learn how nurturing herself with compassion and accountability can transform her healing journey. This session beautifully highlights why self-forgiveness, patience, and consistent self-care are crucial to breaking generational cycles. This episode is for you if: * You struggle with self-forgiveness and feelings of guilt. * You're navigating the complex feelings of abandonment or loneliness. * You find yourself trapped in patterns of people-pleasing and self-abandonment. * You're ready to heal your inner child and cultivate deep self-compassion. SPECIAL INTRO OFFER: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and save 40% off! 👉🏾 Click here to join now! MASTERMIND WAITLIST: This Mastermind is for you if you desire to fast track your healing journey through letting go of the suffocating patterns that have held you back in your life and relationships. Over the course of three months, you will learn how to implement tools and practices that will shift the way you feel and respond in your relationships. 👉🏾 Click here to join the waitlist! Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide Watch Masterclasses from our Membership Library Read posts From My Journal ✍🏾 Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Am you parenting from a place of punishment, or are you guiding your child toward autonomy, self-respect, and healthy emotional expression? In this episode, I share my insights as a M.Ed and Montessori educator on how to foster respect, emotional resilience, and healthy boundaries in children. I discuss practical strategies to prevent people-pleasing behaviors, handle challenging moments through playful connection (think pillow fights and peekaboo!), and support sensitive children by tracking emotional triggers. You’ll learn to create structured yet nurturing routines that offer stability for your child—and yourself—as you navigate parenting with self-compassion, authenticity, and curiosity. This episode is for you if: * You worry about raising a people-pleaser or struggle setting boundaries with your child. * You have a sensitive, anxious, or energetic child and want actionable ways to support them. * You're looking for playful parenting strategies to build emotional resilience. * You want guidance on creating structured daily routines that benefit both you and your child. SPECIAL INTRO OFFER: Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and save 40% off! 👉🏾 Click here to join now! MASTERMIND WAITLIST: This Mastermind is for you if you desire to fast track your healing journey through letting go of the suffocating patterns that have held you back in your life and relationships. Over the course of three months, you will learn how to implement tools and practices that will shift the way you feel and respond in your relationships. 👉🏾 Click here to join the waitlist! Grab my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide Watch Masterclasses from our Membership Library Read posts From My Journal ✍🏾 Check out The Gems 💎 where you will find the resources with practical insights, tools, and wisdom to guide you on your journey. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe